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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 53340" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>In my personal experience, nagging is going to get you nowhere. In fact, it will have an opposite effect. I agree with smallworld, you need to use the basket method. If it is important to you that difficult child has responsibilities, then you need to define them SPECIFICALLY. For example, "keep your room clean" is entirely too vague. You would need to sublist the chores:</p><p>Put clean clothes away</p><p>Put dirty clothes in hamper</p><p>Make bed daily</p><p>Keep toys/baseball bards/etc in proper places</p><p>sweep/vacuum weekly</p><p></p><p>In addition, I would only give two or three chores. For each chore, again, specifically list what needs to be done. try not to nag beyond his chores. And try not to react to his quirks (i.e., calling to complain that he was woken up). </p><p></p><p>Put it on a chart. in my humble opinion, it is more beneficial to reward when the chores are done than to punish if they are NOT done. </p><p></p><p>SO let's say in the course of a week, he keeps his room clean, walks the dog, and takes out the garbage. You may treat him to ice cream or a pack of baseball cards. Maybe a movie or special time fishing with dad. </p><p></p><p>Give that a try.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 53340, member: 3647"] In my personal experience, nagging is going to get you nowhere. In fact, it will have an opposite effect. I agree with smallworld, you need to use the basket method. If it is important to you that difficult child has responsibilities, then you need to define them SPECIFICALLY. For example, "keep your room clean" is entirely too vague. You would need to sublist the chores: Put clean clothes away Put dirty clothes in hamper Make bed daily Keep toys/baseball bards/etc in proper places sweep/vacuum weekly In addition, I would only give two or three chores. For each chore, again, specifically list what needs to be done. try not to nag beyond his chores. And try not to react to his quirks (i.e., calling to complain that he was woken up). Put it on a chart. in my humble opinion, it is more beneficial to reward when the chores are done than to punish if they are NOT done. SO let's say in the course of a week, he keeps his room clean, walks the dog, and takes out the garbage. You may treat him to ice cream or a pack of baseball cards. Maybe a movie or special time fishing with dad. Give that a try. [/QUOTE]
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