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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 638867" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thank you HLM. </p><p></p><p>Well, I used to be quite the perfectionist and I've done my share of brow beating too........geez, I guess getting older really does bring about a certain amount of serenity.......thank God. </p><p></p><p>I have to say this HLM, I have been on a quest most of my life, call it a spiritual one, or a search for truth, or wholeness, or health, or peace of mind........ but I've been at it forever.........and it all came to a head, big time, when my only child went off the rails 3 years ago. The torment, the suffering, the anguish, fear, anger, sorrow, grief, all of it was almost unbearable at times. I sought out armies of help........and gratefully, I got it. This forum was a big part of that help. And, I made it through all of that..........I am as surprised as anyone, maybe more so, given that I just would never have believed that I could not only be okay, but thrive, be happy, be peaceful and enjoy life, while my only child continues in her difficult child lifestyle. </p><p></p><p>The journey with my daughter brought me through and out the rabbit hole and I learned so much ......... about letting go, detachment, acceptance, peace of mind, presence, non judgement, compassion, releasing of expectations, trust,........and perhaps most importantly, how to stay in the present moment and not lapse in to the past or the future.........not just in relation to my daughter, but to life........all of that applies to every single part of life...........and it changed my entire life in ways I am still learning about. ALL for the positive. </p><p></p><p>I saw my daughter the other day. She is fine. Living her life, on her terms, with her peeps. I really saw that too. It is literally diametrically in opposition to my own life, but, it ISN'T my life, it's hers. And, I think that I saw that for the first time really........and I felt so.........peaceful...........that's the only way I can describe it. And, here's the odd part............so did she...........</p><p></p><p>No more judgements, or blame, or "why aren't you different then you are" or sorrow, or anger, or anything. I think I have finally just accepted her for who she is.........and it seems...........we both knew it too..............</p><p></p><p>I am doing what you speak about often, I am feeling grateful for everything, every moment, happy to be alive and experiencing all of it........and so grateful for this board, for all of you, for the opportunity we all have to change, to grow, to evolve, to expand ..........and to feel peace ........and love .........and joy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 638867, member: 13542"] Thank you HLM. Well, I used to be quite the perfectionist and I've done my share of brow beating too........geez, I guess getting older really does bring about a certain amount of serenity.......thank God. I have to say this HLM, I have been on a quest most of my life, call it a spiritual one, or a search for truth, or wholeness, or health, or peace of mind........ but I've been at it forever.........and it all came to a head, big time, when my only child went off the rails 3 years ago. The torment, the suffering, the anguish, fear, anger, sorrow, grief, all of it was almost unbearable at times. I sought out armies of help........and gratefully, I got it. This forum was a big part of that help. And, I made it through all of that..........I am as surprised as anyone, maybe more so, given that I just would never have believed that I could not only be okay, but thrive, be happy, be peaceful and enjoy life, while my only child continues in her difficult child lifestyle. The journey with my daughter brought me through and out the rabbit hole and I learned so much ......... about letting go, detachment, acceptance, peace of mind, presence, non judgement, compassion, releasing of expectations, trust,........and perhaps most importantly, how to stay in the present moment and not lapse in to the past or the future.........not just in relation to my daughter, but to life........all of that applies to every single part of life...........and it changed my entire life in ways I am still learning about. ALL for the positive. I saw my daughter the other day. She is fine. Living her life, on her terms, with her peeps. I really saw that too. It is literally diametrically in opposition to my own life, but, it ISN'T my life, it's hers. And, I think that I saw that for the first time really........and I felt so.........peaceful...........that's the only way I can describe it. And, here's the odd part............so did she........... No more judgements, or blame, or "why aren't you different then you are" or sorrow, or anger, or anything. I think I have finally just accepted her for who she is.........and it seems...........we both knew it too.............. I am doing what you speak about often, I am feeling grateful for everything, every moment, happy to be alive and experiencing all of it........and so grateful for this board, for all of you, for the opportunity we all have to change, to grow, to evolve, to expand ..........and to feel peace ........and love .........and joy. [/QUOTE]
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