I am the adult child of an alcoholic. My dad became sober after I left the house and has remained so for the past 25 years. Both of my siblings are/were alcoholics. I am the middle child. My family life was one crisis after another. How I got through everything was a total gift from God. I have been in Alanon since I was 16. When I got married at age 24, my husband promised me that I wouldn't have to go through another day of what I went through living with my father. He kept that promise. Come to the present day, a few years ago, my 39 year old sibling died of cirrhosis of the liver. For the last six weeks of his life, I literally watched him bleed to death. It was absolutely horrific. I kept my own children at a distance from what was going on, as they were all under 12 at the time. My other sibling is a raging alcoholic and we don't have contact, only through my parents... and that's another story. Come to the present, I have three children and my middle child, my son who is about to turn 16, has started smoking pot, drinking, having sex, and making stupid, apathetic decisions about everything else. My husband and I have lost control over the situation. It is getting worse and I'm frozen. One of my biggest fears is that my son will turn out like my brother. My brother struggled with chronic alcoholism from age 16 until his death. My children know this. I feel absolutely frozen about how to deal with my son. In Alanon, we learned to let the addict go, but what if the person is 16?