Lil
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Tonight we're going out to my husband's 30's HS reunion. It's about 2 hours away and so we will be staying at my in-laws. My son insists he is responsible enough to watch the dogs (they can be crated most of the day) and so we're leaving them. We're leaving him no money and taking all the car keys. He's been so much better lately, finally got a job (though it hasn't started yet), has been pretty good about keeping stuff cleaned up, doing chores etc.
This will be the first time we've left him alone in the house in years. Before he was 16 or 17, we had no problem staying away for a night. We looked forward to the day when we could go camping or whatever and leave him for a week without fear. Isn't it strange how that falls apart? It became the opposite. We've put off vacations and camping trips since he was older, when he should have been able to be home, because the thought of leaving him alone in our home was just asking for trouble. Heck, when he was 17 we left him with $7 if he wanted to run to McDonald's or whatever and went to a funeral two hours away and was called by him in just a panic on the way home (apparently you can't buy pot or whatever for just $7). But he has gotten so much better in the last couple months - behavior-wise. Granted, we've had the lying thing still...
So...I've asked one of my friends to drive by to make sure there's no parties or whatever going on, but I really do think that he knows that the neighbors would snitch in a heartbeat, and we're telling him we're not completely sure we're spending the night and might drive back, depending on the time. So...we shall see.
I just find it so sad that, now that he's older and we should have confidence, is when we have to worry.
This will be the first time we've left him alone in the house in years. Before he was 16 or 17, we had no problem staying away for a night. We looked forward to the day when we could go camping or whatever and leave him for a week without fear. Isn't it strange how that falls apart? It became the opposite. We've put off vacations and camping trips since he was older, when he should have been able to be home, because the thought of leaving him alone in our home was just asking for trouble. Heck, when he was 17 we left him with $7 if he wanted to run to McDonald's or whatever and went to a funeral two hours away and was called by him in just a panic on the way home (apparently you can't buy pot or whatever for just $7). But he has gotten so much better in the last couple months - behavior-wise. Granted, we've had the lying thing still...
So...I've asked one of my friends to drive by to make sure there's no parties or whatever going on, but I really do think that he knows that the neighbors would snitch in a heartbeat, and we're telling him we're not completely sure we're spending the night and might drive back, depending on the time. So...we shall see.
I just find it so sad that, now that he's older and we should have confidence, is when we have to worry.