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bran155
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Hey all. I need to vent a little. I am so mad!!!! My daughter called me from the court house, she had court this morning and I was not notified!!!! I felt so bad, she said that she felt abandoned. I of course explained to her that no one notified me of her court date. She said that she didn't even know about it until they woke her up this morning. I called the lawyer that I have been talking to and she felt horrible as she promised to keep me updated with my daughter's case. My daughter told me that the lawyer that showed up for her today told her that she would probably be released with probation. What???? I was told that her case was being transferred to the Youth Court and that they were going to place her. I am so confused and frustrated as one hand doesn't know what the other is doing. I asked Ellen (lawyer I spoke to) about it and she said that she knows nothing about that. As far as she knows that the original plan to transfer the case and have my daughter placed is still going to happen. Now, my daughter probably misconstrued the information. I asked my daughter if the new court was even mentioned and she said no. I am so ticked off that I was not notified of this court date. If I went to court then I would know for sure what is going on. Ellen said that she would have the lawyer call me today. Yeah okay, that will happen. It's already 4:15 and she hasn't called yet. It's Friday and Monday is a holiday, so I won't be able to talk to anyone until next Tuesday!!! UURRGGHHHH!!!!
I am so worried now. I do not want my daughter released with probation. I do not want her to live here. But I just can't throw her in the streets for God's sake. I was so excited about her being placed. That is what she needs. If they just release her she will no doubt violate her probation and just end up back in jail. She will come home and start in on her usual bs and put us all through hell once again. She will run the streets and have me worrying all night long. Not to mention she will refuse treatment and won't take her medications. Right back to square one!!! I know that I am jumping the gun here. My daughter probably got the story all wrong. I hope that is the case anyway. I will try to be patient and not panic yet. I wish the DA would allow me to come and see him so that I can be sure of what the plan is. I hope there still is a plan. How can they have a court date and not noify me, she isn't 18 yet!!!
The friend that I told you all about that has similar issues as my daughter, the one that went to visit her already is going to see her again tomorrow. I will give her money to put on my daughter's account. Even though I am still detaching and I know that my daughter deserves this as she brought this on herself, I feel badly that I haven't even seen her. I can't find my liscense, so I can't get in to see her. She must be feeling so alone. Here comes the guilt!!! Great!!! I just keep reminding myslelf that this is the reality of her choices. I can't lose myself and become imeshed with her again. I have been doing so well with keeping myself together. But at the same time I don't want to disown the kid - ya know? I still love her very much. I don't know.
Thanks for listening, I needed to unload!!
Shawna
I am so worried now. I do not want my daughter released with probation. I do not want her to live here. But I just can't throw her in the streets for God's sake. I was so excited about her being placed. That is what she needs. If they just release her she will no doubt violate her probation and just end up back in jail. She will come home and start in on her usual bs and put us all through hell once again. She will run the streets and have me worrying all night long. Not to mention she will refuse treatment and won't take her medications. Right back to square one!!! I know that I am jumping the gun here. My daughter probably got the story all wrong. I hope that is the case anyway. I will try to be patient and not panic yet. I wish the DA would allow me to come and see him so that I can be sure of what the plan is. I hope there still is a plan. How can they have a court date and not noify me, she isn't 18 yet!!!
The friend that I told you all about that has similar issues as my daughter, the one that went to visit her already is going to see her again tomorrow. I will give her money to put on my daughter's account. Even though I am still detaching and I know that my daughter deserves this as she brought this on herself, I feel badly that I haven't even seen her. I can't find my liscense, so I can't get in to see her. She must be feeling so alone. Here comes the guilt!!! Great!!! I just keep reminding myslelf that this is the reality of her choices. I can't lose myself and become imeshed with her again. I have been doing so well with keeping myself together. But at the same time I don't want to disown the kid - ya know? I still love her very much. I don't know.
Thanks for listening, I needed to unload!!
Shawna