mom_to_3
Active Member
How many of you have considered that less is more? Less talking that is. When I was raising our difficult child and easy child children, I talked until I was blue in the face explaining, explaining and explaining why she should or shouldn't do something, what could or couldn't happen depending on the situation, what the consequences would be if she did whatever. I spent a lot of time giving pep talks, atta boys, and lectures repeatedly. I also now believe that doing this gives a whole lot of attention to negative behavior and just encourages more of the same. Not good!
Now that I'm on the other side, I've come to believe that less is more. Our children, difficult child's and easy child's alike know our house rules probably better than we do! They are also VERY aware of what the consequences are without us repeating and reminding them over and over. What they are not as certain of, is if WE will follow thru or NOT. every. single. time.
I don't really know if the "less is more" approach will work out like I think it will (but I feel positive) on our 5 yr. old grandson. I have been told.... that even though he is a difficult child, his behavior and demeanor is so much better at our home.
Just some food for thought.....................
Now that I'm on the other side, I've come to believe that less is more. Our children, difficult child's and easy child's alike know our house rules probably better than we do! They are also VERY aware of what the consequences are without us repeating and reminding them over and over. What they are not as certain of, is if WE will follow thru or NOT. every. single. time.
I don't really know if the "less is more" approach will work out like I think it will (but I feel positive) on our 5 yr. old grandson. I have been told.... that even though he is a difficult child, his behavior and demeanor is so much better at our home.
Just some food for thought.....................