I know we don't usually tell each other what to do, but I'd really like to hear thoughts and opinions on this one... As you know, we've been "disappointed" in the results of our meetings with state people and county MH people in regards to treatment for difficult child. After consider whether or not we were in a position to fight, I realized that all the documentation assembled by the County MH agency has been designed to hide any issues more serious than defiance and trouble in school. Any documentation that I brought to doctor's attention over the past several years never quite made it into the "official record"...and/or was destroyed. So any battle from us is going to be uphill... AND...difficult child is about to turn 16... so time is not on our side. Meanwhile, County MH has referred us to a program that will send a behavior person out to the house 2 or 3 times per week to teach husband and I some new "parenting skills" and techniques in order to get difficult child's behaviors under control. (aka - try new behavior chart). To be honest? I just want to throw it the towel. I'm sick and tired of dragging difficult child to County MH for therapy, only to have her refuse to do whatever it is the therapist is requesting of her. It seems that in the three years we have been seeking treatment there, no progress has been made. Because we have Medicaid for difficult child - County MH is our only treatment option. We have already tried multiple tdocs and psychiatrists at their facility. So switching to a new therapist does not look to make much difference. And I'd like to tell County MH to take their "behavioral" cr*p and SHOVE IT! And I'd like to take my attention OFF of difficult child for a while. She don't care? Why should I? And if she gets herself into trouble with the law or fails school or something - she can face those consequences. I will continue to try and protect this family and if I have to be the one to call the police? I will... BUT husband - who will not be the one dealing with the behavior person or the behavior plan or the behavior charts - thinks that we should continue with treatment and try this new behavior thing because we need to try EVERYTHING to help difficult child...leave no stone un-turned. What are your thoughts? What do you think you would do and why?