I helped my son financially many times when he was 18 an over with many promises from him and swearing to god he would repay me ,I couldnt get him off my sofa till he was about 27 years old he treated my home like a hotel as in "leave the mess for the maids" when my grandson was born it was all about him,there were times I took him to work with me (homecare for elderly)because my son who said he had to work didnt have a sitter for him after his first divorce, I broke my arm an had a cast all the way up an had to drive 3 kids under 5 to the store for milk an babysit them I played a huge role the first 5 years an when my son moved out w my grandson he stole my credit cards to pay his rent and gas up the car (I took a loan out for),then there was the thousand $ packer game I paid to bail him out of jail so he would be there for my grandson, numerous fines I paid looking back I should of allowed him to be arrested,one day my $300 cue stick an case seemed to have vanished from my closet (Iwas so busy working) but a month later when my son had a brand new cue stick an case I knew he had stolen mine an sold it or something,he got a DWI with my grandson in the back seat on the way to hook up w the girl who would become his second wife,she needed a car so he dumped the one off I had purchased for him that he swore to pay for an got his dad to sign so they could both lease cars,since then one time I got 100.00 from them for the car about 5 years ago,they got married in Key West( I couldnt afford to attend)they went to Vegas a few months ago, I reminded him about the car an didnt get a response later I heard from a mutual friend that hes saying I'm just money hungry an he owes me nothing an hes paid me back I feel sooo disrespected, and on top of that criticized for my devotion to my first grandson now who seems to be thrown on the back burner in their efforts to make him just one of the gang,they have a very angry household I have a stepgrandaughter whom I do not feel closeness with...its felt like you are not my gramma since the beginning shes now 12 my grandson is 11 she bullies an blackmails him ,my youngest grandson whos 5 ( a product of there parenting) has behavioral problems so it can be really difficult to babysit him, recently it felt like my son was challengeing me when he was telling me how they are raising their kids to be honest even if it hurts an I said I don't know how you can even be talking to me about this after you robbed me,well he was screaming at me anyway from the moment I picked up the phone, everytime I see them I feel soooo disrespected by both of them (shes conviently oblivious to all this) an can hardly look at them his father only saw him one weekend a month when he was a child an now my son an his wife owe my ex about $20.000 but his father says they will pay him back....My daughter doesnt want to hear it an I dont blame her,on Christmas my daughter,grandaughter an I go to there house with gifts for all the kids which the parents rush the kids to open, then they practically throw some food at us and its time for us to go unless we want to go to church with them which I dont I would prefer to see the grandkids open gifts leisurely and then spend some time with them,I'm trying to find a way to put it all behind me but dont know how to begin with it still going on an always haveing to be on guard when they call,Im disabled now with fibromyalgia and PTSD they only call when they want something an my son never helped me,but always calls when they need a sitter.