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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 716649" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You cant help him. Or your mom. In fact, why is it your impossible job to fix your son and mother? Are you a wealthy miracle worker?</p><p></p><p>Your son is a man. So is my 24 year old autistic son. My son lives on his own and gets some social security and works teo jobs and takes care of himself in his oen place on his own dime. Your son needs to learn to take care of himself. You and Mom cant live forever.</p><p></p><p>Is your son on Disability? If not, why not? That is money to help him get a case manager and find housing on his dime. It wont be a glamorous place, but so what? He can get help and cut the violence. He is 29, not even close to being young.if he chooses to do nothing to help hiself and live on the streets without any services, that is his choice. He will learn to be street savvy. They all do. There are food pantries, shelters and other services. </p><p></p><p>With his history he is a danger to others. We can not live forever. May as well he learn consequences of his violence now as when you are gone, if he hasnt wised up, he will call the streets his home then, and no magic words will change that or help Mom. We can only change oe person...us. We can change how we respond to others and learn that we matter...and be good to ourselves first.</p><p></p><p>Forget the cute little boy your son was at ten. He is not that boy. He is a man and society pereives him as almost thirty years old. Dont blame mental illness. My autistic son works. Bipolars work. Depressives work. Anxious people work. Its up to him.</p><p></p><p>I would recommed SSD first and cut out the Bank of Mom. He can live in a room in a private home or a homeless shelter and choose not to be violent. Is he taking psyhiatric medications? If Occupational Therapist (OT), that is his problem. Is he using other drugs? This is all on his shoulders at his age, even if he is immature or truly has bipolar. Only WE can take steps to heal ourselves. Yes, he must do it himself.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you a peaceful life from now on</p><p> Detach, detach, detach from his drama. It is his life, not yours. Be good to yourself.</p><p></p><p>Mom could learn to take care of herself too. Or not. Really, it is up to her. She should not be bothered with gradson at her age. </p><p></p><p>My hearty opinion is that you need a therspist badly so that you learn coping and self love skills. You deserve it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 716649, member: 1550"] You cant help him. Or your mom. In fact, why is it your impossible job to fix your son and mother? Are you a wealthy miracle worker? Your son is a man. So is my 24 year old autistic son. My son lives on his own and gets some social security and works teo jobs and takes care of himself in his oen place on his own dime. Your son needs to learn to take care of himself. You and Mom cant live forever. Is your son on Disability? If not, why not? That is money to help him get a case manager and find housing on his dime. It wont be a glamorous place, but so what? He can get help and cut the violence. He is 29, not even close to being young.if he chooses to do nothing to help hiself and live on the streets without any services, that is his choice. He will learn to be street savvy. They all do. There are food pantries, shelters and other services. With his history he is a danger to others. We can not live forever. May as well he learn consequences of his violence now as when you are gone, if he hasnt wised up, he will call the streets his home then, and no magic words will change that or help Mom. We can only change oe person...us. We can change how we respond to others and learn that we matter...and be good to ourselves first. Forget the cute little boy your son was at ten. He is not that boy. He is a man and society pereives him as almost thirty years old. Dont blame mental illness. My autistic son works. Bipolars work. Depressives work. Anxious people work. Its up to him. I would recommed SSD first and cut out the Bank of Mom. He can live in a room in a private home or a homeless shelter and choose not to be violent. Is he taking psyhiatric medications? If Occupational Therapist (OT), that is his problem. Is he using other drugs? This is all on his shoulders at his age, even if he is immature or truly has bipolar. Only WE can take steps to heal ourselves. Yes, he must do it himself. Wishing you a peaceful life from now on Detach, detach, detach from his drama. It is his life, not yours. Be good to yourself. Mom could learn to take care of herself too. Or not. Really, it is up to her. She should not be bothered with gradson at her age. My hearty opinion is that you need a therspist badly so that you learn coping and self love skills. You deserve it. [/QUOTE]
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