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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 716919" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know we sound very harsh. Please know we don't mean any of this to be harsh. We are thinking of your best interests and actually of your son's best interests also. The world isn't going to cushion him when you and your mom are not able to help him any longer. It will be a harsh wake-up call, one that he will be better able to cope with at a young age than an older age. Many of us have had to see our own children through this, and we know it is incredibly hard on the parents.</p><p></p><p>SWOT, the first person who replied to you, not only has an autistic son who is independent with a little help from disability, she also speaks from experience. She has anxiety and bipolar disorder. She has suffered with them from childhood and supported herself and her family anyway. Her family never supported her and in some ways it may have been good for her. Why? She HAD to find help because she had to function. She didn't have any other choices. If she didn't function, go to work, go to the store, etc...., she didn't eat or have a roof over her head. </p><p></p><p>Please take what she said to heart. She truly knows what she is talking about and is saying what is best, in the long run, for your son and your family. Your family is very enmeshed with your son and his illness and addiction. Many people with bipolar self medicate with alcohol or drugs (including marijuana) and it becomes addiction for them. This is something that the whole family needs help with because it impacts the entire family. It literally infects everyone, even though not everyone uses the substances. </p><p></p><p>Please seek therapy. Read about detachment. Read Codependent No More by Beattie. Seek out NAMI online and if possible go to parent groups and other meetings. Maybe even go to alanon or Narcotics Anon family meetings. Keep posting here and reading here. We won't judge, and we know that you won't/cannot do all of the things we suggest. That is fine. They are ideas, suggestions. You have to choose the ones that are right for you, and we respect that. We are still here for you and we won't ever judge you. Take what works for you and leave the rest. You won't upset us by doing that. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry you had to come find us, but I am very glad you are here with us. Welcome to our corner of the web.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 716919, member: 1233"] I know we sound very harsh. Please know we don't mean any of this to be harsh. We are thinking of your best interests and actually of your son's best interests also. The world isn't going to cushion him when you and your mom are not able to help him any longer. It will be a harsh wake-up call, one that he will be better able to cope with at a young age than an older age. Many of us have had to see our own children through this, and we know it is incredibly hard on the parents. SWOT, the first person who replied to you, not only has an autistic son who is independent with a little help from disability, she also speaks from experience. She has anxiety and bipolar disorder. She has suffered with them from childhood and supported herself and her family anyway. Her family never supported her and in some ways it may have been good for her. Why? She HAD to find help because she had to function. She didn't have any other choices. If she didn't function, go to work, go to the store, etc...., she didn't eat or have a roof over her head. Please take what she said to heart. She truly knows what she is talking about and is saying what is best, in the long run, for your son and your family. Your family is very enmeshed with your son and his illness and addiction. Many people with bipolar self medicate with alcohol or drugs (including marijuana) and it becomes addiction for them. This is something that the whole family needs help with because it impacts the entire family. It literally infects everyone, even though not everyone uses the substances. Please seek therapy. Read about detachment. Read Codependent No More by Beattie. Seek out NAMI online and if possible go to parent groups and other meetings. Maybe even go to alanon or Narcotics Anon family meetings. Keep posting here and reading here. We won't judge, and we know that you won't/cannot do all of the things we suggest. That is fine. They are ideas, suggestions. You have to choose the ones that are right for you, and we respect that. We are still here for you and we won't ever judge you. Take what works for you and leave the rest. You won't upset us by doing that. I am sorry you had to come find us, but I am very glad you are here with us. Welcome to our corner of the web. [/QUOTE]
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