This subject has come up a lot recently with those of you with older difficult child's. My focus with my difficult child has been just getting through the day. Learning how to cope with and deal with daily triggers, anxieties and other issues, such as communication, friendships, school, perception...that sort of thing. At what age do I start to work on more independent living skills? She still needs reminded to shower and brush her teeth, although she is starting to take some initiative on that. Some. I've gotten over my personal angst of reminding her to shower (she would always be sooo offended) because it just needs to be done. However, your posts have really shown me that she is going to need a lot of help to prepare for any kind of independence. I know at almost 13, she has a long way to go, but these are skills that are going to have to be taught and retaught in order for her to really 'get it'. Any suggestions on when and where to start? I know the first thing is the purchase of a GPS. Have I mentioned that she has no sense of direction? LOL We have lived in the same small town all her life. She has no idea where anything is. Not a clue. When easy child was her age, he'd ride his bike into town. She couldn't make it off the street.