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Life without Sis is amazingly, surprisingly good! Boundaries rock!
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 627986" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>MWM, enjoy the peace. I was driving today and thinking about families that I know, and how many of them have grown adults, siblings, that aren't very close. Or they don't talk at all. Or one does and the others don't. Or some have died. There were a lot of them. There were more than I realized.</p><p></p><p>It's the accident of birth thing. The "we don't choose" thing. We can love people from a distance---sometimes it's a LOT better from a distance. </p><p></p><p>I used to think that if a friend was somehow distant or estranged from a family member, there was something bad wrong with all of them to allow that. That was way back when I thought both of my kids would have these great "normal" lives, with all of the trimmings. I smile at that person now, that naive person who hadn't really lived much of life.</p><p></p><p>I think things are getting a bit simpler as I am getting older. I will be 58 this fall. I'm more willing to stop doing the things I really don't like to do, and do more of the things I do like to do. I'm impatient with any insincerity or falseness or posturing. I just don't have the stomach for that stuff anymore. </p><p></p><p>This journey is a path toward an authentic life. A happier life with the people, places and things that aren't in the + column somehow not as much as part of our lives as they used to be. </p><p></p><p>We can make choices. We can set boundaries. We can work to accept the people we want in our lives for who they are. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for sharing this journey with your sister. Big hugs to you tonight. You are a true warrior woman!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 627986, member: 17542"] MWM, enjoy the peace. I was driving today and thinking about families that I know, and how many of them have grown adults, siblings, that aren't very close. Or they don't talk at all. Or one does and the others don't. Or some have died. There were a lot of them. There were more than I realized. It's the accident of birth thing. The "we don't choose" thing. We can love people from a distance---sometimes it's a LOT better from a distance. I used to think that if a friend was somehow distant or estranged from a family member, there was something bad wrong with all of them to allow that. That was way back when I thought both of my kids would have these great "normal" lives, with all of the trimmings. I smile at that person now, that naive person who hadn't really lived much of life. I think things are getting a bit simpler as I am getting older. I will be 58 this fall. I'm more willing to stop doing the things I really don't like to do, and do more of the things I do like to do. I'm impatient with any insincerity or falseness or posturing. I just don't have the stomach for that stuff anymore. This journey is a path toward an authentic life. A happier life with the people, places and things that aren't in the + column somehow not as much as part of our lives as they used to be. We can make choices. We can set boundaries. We can work to accept the people we want in our lives for who they are. Thanks for sharing this journey with your sister. Big hugs to you tonight. You are a true warrior woman! [/QUOTE]
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