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Life without Sis is amazingly, surprisingly good! Boundaries rock!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 628208" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Cedar, are you sure you aren't in my family...lolol. YES! They definitely did sneaky, dysfunctional things to upset the balance and I'm convinced in dysfunctional families, favortism that is blatantly shoved into the open is really, really common. And OMG "That's just how mom is!"...so familiar. In this case it was more like "That's just how Grandma is, she plays favorites." It is interesting that my mother would not do anything Grandma didn't like, yet in Grandma's last days, in a nursing home, my mother was having a screaming match with Grandma over how Grandma had favoried Uncle Jerk. Honesty, Grandma was 82 and Mother was 62 and they were fighting like a teenager and her mother. Yet since I didn't obey Grandma's meanspirited wishes, Mother wrote me off. I learned too late that I should never have told her the truth. I should have said, "Right, Mom, I gave it all to 36." But I did think it was wrong and had to take a stand.I couldn't keep my ideas to myself and my big mouth shut. You don't have any independent ideas in our loonybin family. That was unacceptable.</p><p></p><p>OMG! I can almost see your little nieces and nephews marching around the dinner table with a flag, singing patriotic songs, making you wan to scream at them to shut up, although, of course, it wasn't their idea. They are kids. Certainly Sis was trying to bother you; maybe bother everyone. Who can figure out this level of nuttiness?</p><p></p><p>LIke you, Cedar, I feel very free to realize that I was not the big problem in my family origin and that I can leave my sister behind. Let her try her little tricks on somebody else. It is so good to know I will never be her victim again. Ever.</p><p></p><p>It is very cathartic to me to be doing this here...lol. I hope I'm not boring most people.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 628208, member: 1550"] Cedar, are you sure you aren't in my family...lolol. YES! They definitely did sneaky, dysfunctional things to upset the balance and I'm convinced in dysfunctional families, favortism that is blatantly shoved into the open is really, really common. And OMG "That's just how mom is!"...so familiar. In this case it was more like "That's just how Grandma is, she plays favorites." It is interesting that my mother would not do anything Grandma didn't like, yet in Grandma's last days, in a nursing home, my mother was having a screaming match with Grandma over how Grandma had favoried Uncle Jerk. Honesty, Grandma was 82 and Mother was 62 and they were fighting like a teenager and her mother. Yet since I didn't obey Grandma's meanspirited wishes, Mother wrote me off. I learned too late that I should never have told her the truth. I should have said, "Right, Mom, I gave it all to 36." But I did think it was wrong and had to take a stand.I couldn't keep my ideas to myself and my big mouth shut. You don't have any independent ideas in our loonybin family. That was unacceptable. OMG! I can almost see your little nieces and nephews marching around the dinner table with a flag, singing patriotic songs, making you wan to scream at them to shut up, although, of course, it wasn't their idea. They are kids. Certainly Sis was trying to bother you; maybe bother everyone. Who can figure out this level of nuttiness? LIke you, Cedar, I feel very free to realize that I was not the big problem in my family origin and that I can leave my sister behind. Let her try her little tricks on somebody else. It is so good to know I will never be her victim again. Ever. It is very cathartic to me to be doing this here...lol. I hope I'm not boring most people. [/QUOTE]
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