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<blockquote data-quote="Lucyxyz" data-source="post: 706192" data-attributes="member: 21235"><p>I'm living your life. I'm younger, as is my son, but the parallels are there. He's a master manipulator. People that meet him think he's awesome. He lies when ever he speaks and tells them how 'great he's doing in school & how he has all these plans' when the reality is he's dropped out of junior college 5 times and spends his days sleeping and smoking pot.</p><p></p><p>His anger is pointed directly at me even though I'm the one that literally did everything for him all his life. He had a girl friend last year. Nice girl from a good family. He was there too much to where they were basically living together as her wealthy parents travelled 90% of the time. His anger started to translate to her and even at her young age, she was smart enough to dump him. So the pattern will continue. The next girl will become the target of his rage etc etc so relationships will fail for him always. </p><p></p><p>My husband is the enabler. I told him the other day that if I leave, the anger will then transfer to him so for him to think he's off the hook or somehow the 'good parent' because our sons rage is targeted at me (because I know that without consequences for our actions life is insanity) is a pipe dream He's a pathological liar and a complete narcissist so NOTHING is ever his fault. No matter what he does you are NOT to correct him or get even the slightest bit annoyed at his actions. You are to kiss his ass and praise him for literally sleeping all day and staying out all night. If you don't, it's YOUR fault he's lazy, unmotivated and disrespectful even though he was showered with love and 'things' his entire life. He was our ONLY child so he was our world. If you do brave the occasional 'hey don't do that', he explodes, calls you horrific names and threatens to kill you.</p><p></p><p>I appreciated your comment in my 'I'm a failure' post as I no longer love my son. For a mother to say that you have to only imagine what lead up to it. Years and years of horrible, awful actions and words. When you said 'it's okay, what's there to love' a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Thank you so much. To know I'm not alone or a horrible person for saying it out loud means everything.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry about your situation. Please know that I understand completely what you're going through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lucyxyz, post: 706192, member: 21235"] I'm living your life. I'm younger, as is my son, but the parallels are there. He's a master manipulator. People that meet him think he's awesome. He lies when ever he speaks and tells them how 'great he's doing in school & how he has all these plans' when the reality is he's dropped out of junior college 5 times and spends his days sleeping and smoking pot. His anger is pointed directly at me even though I'm the one that literally did everything for him all his life. He had a girl friend last year. Nice girl from a good family. He was there too much to where they were basically living together as her wealthy parents travelled 90% of the time. His anger started to translate to her and even at her young age, she was smart enough to dump him. So the pattern will continue. The next girl will become the target of his rage etc etc so relationships will fail for him always. My husband is the enabler. I told him the other day that if I leave, the anger will then transfer to him so for him to think he's off the hook or somehow the 'good parent' because our sons rage is targeted at me (because I know that without consequences for our actions life is insanity) is a pipe dream He's a pathological liar and a complete narcissist so NOTHING is ever his fault. No matter what he does you are NOT to correct him or get even the slightest bit annoyed at his actions. You are to kiss his ass and praise him for literally sleeping all day and staying out all night. If you don't, it's YOUR fault he's lazy, unmotivated and disrespectful even though he was showered with love and 'things' his entire life. He was our ONLY child so he was our world. If you do brave the occasional 'hey don't do that', he explodes, calls you horrific names and threatens to kill you. I appreciated your comment in my 'I'm a failure' post as I no longer love my son. For a mother to say that you have to only imagine what lead up to it. Years and years of horrible, awful actions and words. When you said 'it's okay, what's there to love' a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Thank you so much. To know I'm not alone or a horrible person for saying it out loud means everything. I'm so sorry about your situation. Please know that I understand completely what you're going through. [/QUOTE]
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