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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 706349" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>Jackievg, your son and my son could be brothers. My son is mentally challenged from birth, he has lower IQ but high enough to know right from wrong, but also gets taken advantage of from others. He also doesn't have an ID either due to some legal stuff he has to take care of. He doesn't get food stamps because of legal issue. He does get SSDI/SSI and has a payee who is a Pastor and his landlord. Son rents a room in a house from him. He has anger issues, and other diagnoses early on in his childhood and teenage years; he gets easily frustrated and has walked off any job he has had. He does work a few days a week holding a sign on the street for a phone company. I send him food cards, visa gift cards in small amounts to help him out monthly. I do pay his phone bill of 40.00 a month. I had sent him cash for a while, but found out he was using for other things then his basic needs. </p><p></p><p>I was his payee for a few years and it almost drove me to insanity. I stopped being his payee and life changed for the better for me.</p><p></p><p>I provide for him because of his mentality issues. I have learned how to adjust my financial boundaries over many years. I can sleep at night knowing I provide basic needs help. YOU are doing the right thing so that you can survive in your situation. </p><p></p><p>I do think your son never got a correct diagnosis early in life, it is not normal for a baby to cry non stop. He had anger issues from the beginning. Yes he is grown man now and responsible for his decisions in life. But also think he fell through the cracks with being diagnosed early on. Many many years ago, Doctors just didn't know what they know now. ADHD came out around my son's age (he is 36) and now there are so many terms and labels for kids these days.</p><p></p><p>In the end, we all have to do what we feel we can live with, whatever gives us peace of mind so that we can enjoy our remaining years on this earth.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 706349, member: 19951"] Jackievg, your son and my son could be brothers. My son is mentally challenged from birth, he has lower IQ but high enough to know right from wrong, but also gets taken advantage of from others. He also doesn't have an ID either due to some legal stuff he has to take care of. He doesn't get food stamps because of legal issue. He does get SSDI/SSI and has a payee who is a Pastor and his landlord. Son rents a room in a house from him. He has anger issues, and other diagnoses early on in his childhood and teenage years; he gets easily frustrated and has walked off any job he has had. He does work a few days a week holding a sign on the street for a phone company. I send him food cards, visa gift cards in small amounts to help him out monthly. I do pay his phone bill of 40.00 a month. I had sent him cash for a while, but found out he was using for other things then his basic needs. I was his payee for a few years and it almost drove me to insanity. I stopped being his payee and life changed for the better for me. I provide for him because of his mentality issues. I have learned how to adjust my financial boundaries over many years. I can sleep at night knowing I provide basic needs help. YOU are doing the right thing so that you can survive in your situation. I do think your son never got a correct diagnosis early in life, it is not normal for a baby to cry non stop. He had anger issues from the beginning. Yes he is grown man now and responsible for his decisions in life. But also think he fell through the cracks with being diagnosed early on. Many many years ago, Doctors just didn't know what they know now. ADHD came out around my son's age (he is 36) and now there are so many terms and labels for kids these days. In the end, we all have to do what we feel we can live with, whatever gives us peace of mind so that we can enjoy our remaining years on this earth. [/QUOTE]
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