I just smelled something a min. ago ... matches, candles ... easy child loves that kind of stuff but she's away at school. I went into difficult child's room and his light was on, he had a paperback there he was reading, but he wasn't there. I called downstairs and found him in the kitchen getting salsa and chips. (Yes, it is 10:49 p.m.) I asked him what he was doing with-candles or matches. "Just lighting matches in my room." "What for?" "Nothing." "Where did you put them when you were finished?" "In the trash." NOT. He had a box of matches AND a lighter. Two burned matches on the nice Land's End white blanket. Luckily, no fabric had burned. He has so much junk and paper in his room, if it started to burn, it would be the end of everything. I'm going to clean out part of his room tomorrow while he's at school, and buy a 2nd fire extinguisher to keep upstairs. And I'm going to bring it up with-both the therapy doctor and psychdoc. Scary stuff. He'll be lucky if he lives to be 30. by the way, he was an absolute jerk tonight. He asked for extra time on the computer if he did more chores. It worked once, but not the second time. He just went straight back on the computer and ignored everything. Incl a friend from his old school who was worried about him and heard a rumor that he wasn't coming back. I called difficult child 4X to come to the ph, and had friend call back twice. The last time, I took it off the hook upstairs and told difficult child to get off the computer NOW. He'd had an hr worth of warnings. He blew up and used the F-word ... and the friend could hear everything. Nothing like ticking off your mom and your friend. (Maybe ex-friend, at this point.) difficult child was marginally better after we gave him his clonidine. He ate a bit of dinner, which shocked me, because I made a very complicated bunch of Indian recipes and thought he'd hate them all. He ate the veg rice and curried chicken, but not the palak paneer (spinach). He refused to set the table or do any dishes. Tomorrow can't come too soon.