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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 723157" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>YS wants to be with grandmother at first, then when he's more independently mobile, move back to his dad's where he has spent his whole life.</p><p></p><p>Our concern is that DS and YS cannot coexist under the same roof. None of this is in YS' thoughts right now. He has been hospitalized since Labor Day, and it is now nearly Thanksgiving. He wants to go home and that is understandable.</p><p></p><p>My wife will have to decide what to do. This is her mother, and her son.</p><p></p><p>Aside from possibly placing an anonymous call to CPS and then never speaking of it as long as I live, I am powerless to protect YS.</p><p></p><p>If anyone was serious about acknowledging the dangers posed to family members by DS it would have been done long before we reached this point. He strangled my wife and STILL nobody was willing to acknowledge that he is dangerous. Lots of kids are depressed and act out in some way. Very few attack their parents. And he has done much more than I, and we (wife and I), know about. YS hints but won't disclose.</p><p></p><p>My wife, who can be prone to exaggeration, said the hospital psychiatrist doesn't think Dad's house is a safe environment for YS.</p><p></p><p>YS will not willingly come to live with us, and I doubt a judge would force him to do so. He would probably choose Grandma if he could not live with his father.</p><p></p><p>Regarding the limits my wife would set, if YS came to live with us, I'd be the primary caretaker, as my wife is very detached emotionally and has no idea of how to interact with her kids, sadly. Back in the days when we had them every other weekend for visitation, she'd be in the other room with a book and I'd be playing Xbox with them, talking to them, etc. And I would be STRICT. As just one example, after he began recovering Grandma bought him a new phone. That was bad enough, but he has locked it with a 10 digit passcode! In my opinion, a kid still hospitalized after a near death experience, resulting from a suicide attempt, which was documented in his text messages, has no right to any unsupervised electronic devices, let alone a device that isn't inspected daily at minimum by a parent!</p><p></p><p>I agree that disaster may strike again. It's a tragedy, it really is, but nobody will do what is necessary to protect YS and I don't have the (legal) right. Meanwhile my 8 year old niece is starting to show signs of possible problems, and I want to give her my time, love, and attention.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 723157, member: 13303"] YS wants to be with grandmother at first, then when he's more independently mobile, move back to his dad's where he has spent his whole life. Our concern is that DS and YS cannot coexist under the same roof. None of this is in YS' thoughts right now. He has been hospitalized since Labor Day, and it is now nearly Thanksgiving. He wants to go home and that is understandable. My wife will have to decide what to do. This is her mother, and her son. Aside from possibly placing an anonymous call to CPS and then never speaking of it as long as I live, I am powerless to protect YS. If anyone was serious about acknowledging the dangers posed to family members by DS it would have been done long before we reached this point. He strangled my wife and STILL nobody was willing to acknowledge that he is dangerous. Lots of kids are depressed and act out in some way. Very few attack their parents. And he has done much more than I, and we (wife and I), know about. YS hints but won't disclose. My wife, who can be prone to exaggeration, said the hospital psychiatrist doesn't think Dad's house is a safe environment for YS. YS will not willingly come to live with us, and I doubt a judge would force him to do so. He would probably choose Grandma if he could not live with his father. Regarding the limits my wife would set, if YS came to live with us, I'd be the primary caretaker, as my wife is very detached emotionally and has no idea of how to interact with her kids, sadly. Back in the days when we had them every other weekend for visitation, she'd be in the other room with a book and I'd be playing Xbox with them, talking to them, etc. And I would be STRICT. As just one example, after he began recovering Grandma bought him a new phone. That was bad enough, but he has locked it with a 10 digit passcode! In my opinion, a kid still hospitalized after a near death experience, resulting from a suicide attempt, which was documented in his text messages, has no right to any unsupervised electronic devices, let alone a device that isn't inspected daily at minimum by a parent! I agree that disaster may strike again. It's a tragedy, it really is, but nobody will do what is necessary to protect YS and I don't have the (legal) right. Meanwhile my 8 year old niece is starting to show signs of possible problems, and I want to give her my time, love, and attention. [/QUOTE]
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