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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 723162" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Unless y s will speak up against his brother a call wont do anything. Most investigations are very short and require proof. Thats why so many abusers get away with it. The kid is afraid to talk to CPS. Or, worse, is not believed. This second happens more than you think. Most "investigators" are under trained, very young, have yoo many cases and are overwhelmed. Many make poor decisions. The one thing they listen to all the time is sexual abuse allegations in which case you have a great chance of losing all your kids even if you didnt do anything wrong.</p><p>As foster parents, hub and I learned about CPS in classes run by them. You can try them, but dont expect much. People call CPS for revenge all the time and they are picky about what they take seriously. It is against dad's civil rights that he lose custody due to mental illness. There would have to be proof that he abused Y S.</p><p></p><p> I was told by a CPS worker who was training us that they need a bruised or fractured body to do anything, that the bar is very high. Neglect means not feeding. Allowing 24/7 videogaming and not forcing good grades or hygiene or curfews is not on the radar and is hard to prove. Verbal abuse is even harder to prove. This worker explained, "Everyone has a different idea of verbal abuse so a judge wont rule on it." True? She insisted when my jaw hit the floor. She was apologetic about it, but stuck to her guns.</p><p></p><p>For a parent to lose custody, he has to practically shoot heroin into his kids arm and somebody has to see it and report it while the needle mark is still fresh so that it csn be seen.</p><p>Or if sexual abuse is alleged. Then, for precaution, often all kids are removed even if the kids say it didnt happen.</p><p>Its a mess.</p><p>At the same time, CPS and court are all we have. Dont be afraid to try. Just dont expect anything.</p><p>I do hope there is a solution. Custody is tough. My sons ex has been trying every which way to get full custody of my grandson. Five years!!! She hasnt gotten anywhere as the laws in Missouri are 50/50 unless a parent can prove abuse, but she keeps trying and the people paying for this lawsuit are both many thousands of dollars poorer. I wish custody issues were easy. At d s age he also has a say so about who he lives with. Like I said, its a mess but I hope for the best. Hope y s will speak up or call the cops. He has to be willing to possibly tick off Dad and older brother. If he denies abuse they will likely be done.</p><p></p><p>Trust me, family law and CPS is all about the parents and nothing about the best interests of the child most of the time. My son is not allowed to trash or bring up his ex's child abuse of grandson. Unless he has pictures and proof, HE will be seen as just a bitter ex even if Grandson agrees and Grandson is too afraid of her and stepfather to say a word against either one.</p><p></p><p>Its all about the lawyers making money,really.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 723162, member: 1550"] Unless y s will speak up against his brother a call wont do anything. Most investigations are very short and require proof. Thats why so many abusers get away with it. The kid is afraid to talk to CPS. Or, worse, is not believed. This second happens more than you think. Most "investigators" are under trained, very young, have yoo many cases and are overwhelmed. Many make poor decisions. The one thing they listen to all the time is sexual abuse allegations in which case you have a great chance of losing all your kids even if you didnt do anything wrong. As foster parents, hub and I learned about CPS in classes run by them. You can try them, but dont expect much. People call CPS for revenge all the time and they are picky about what they take seriously. It is against dad's civil rights that he lose custody due to mental illness. There would have to be proof that he abused Y S. I was told by a CPS worker who was training us that they need a bruised or fractured body to do anything, that the bar is very high. Neglect means not feeding. Allowing 24/7 videogaming and not forcing good grades or hygiene or curfews is not on the radar and is hard to prove. Verbal abuse is even harder to prove. This worker explained, "Everyone has a different idea of verbal abuse so a judge wont rule on it." True? She insisted when my jaw hit the floor. She was apologetic about it, but stuck to her guns. For a parent to lose custody, he has to practically shoot heroin into his kids arm and somebody has to see it and report it while the needle mark is still fresh so that it csn be seen. Or if sexual abuse is alleged. Then, for precaution, often all kids are removed even if the kids say it didnt happen. Its a mess. At the same time, CPS and court are all we have. Dont be afraid to try. Just dont expect anything. I do hope there is a solution. Custody is tough. My sons ex has been trying every which way to get full custody of my grandson. Five years!!! She hasnt gotten anywhere as the laws in Missouri are 50/50 unless a parent can prove abuse, but she keeps trying and the people paying for this lawsuit are both many thousands of dollars poorer. I wish custody issues were easy. At d s age he also has a say so about who he lives with. Like I said, its a mess but I hope for the best. Hope y s will speak up or call the cops. He has to be willing to possibly tick off Dad and older brother. If he denies abuse they will likely be done. Trust me, family law and CPS is all about the parents and nothing about the best interests of the child most of the time. My son is not allowed to trash or bring up his ex's child abuse of grandson. Unless he has pictures and proof, HE will be seen as just a bitter ex even if Grandson agrees and Grandson is too afraid of her and stepfather to say a word against either one. Its all about the lawyers making money,really. [/QUOTE]
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