Lithium Part III - I was right! We did it!

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by nvts, Mar 4, 2011.

  1. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    I copied the original post for reference - but I WAS RIGHT!

    The attending psychiatrist just hung up with me...they're not seeing bi-polar! They feel that it's him trying to fit in with the older kids and as an aspie, isn't doing it right. He told me that this is the first time that he's called a parent and told them that he's glad that they pushed back as hard as I did regarding a medication recommendation!

    Hazzah! Score one for all of us, because if it wasn't for all of you on here, I would NEVER have had the background, the tenacity and the verbal capabilities to spell things out so clearly!

    From deep in my heart, I am so grateful that I happened upon you guys at a dark time in my life and felt so good about fighting the good fight!

    I truly do love you all!

    Beth :choir::abouttime::notalone:


    Figured out why I'm nervous about Lithium
    Yay! I know what was bugging me.

    Now, try and follow my logic (sometimes I confuse myself - I swear, running in cricles does that to me!).

    difficult child 1 goes into psychiatric hospital for medication assessment two Thurs. ago.

    They add tenex, increase trileptal and start lowering risperdal.

    They call me the following Wed and tell me that they're considering discharging him on Friday. I was shocked. His counselor and psychiatrist are both going to be on vacation Thurs,. Friday, and Monday, so I'll get a call from a supervisor after they make arrangements with difficult child 1's community residence director.

    I call the comm. res. and she's as surprised as I am, and proceeds to tell me that she's out on Friday as well, so not to worry no one can authorize a discharge to the residence except her.

    I go see him on Saturday and spend about 4 hours with him. He's calm, easily redirected and pleasant.

    I get a call on Monday saying that they're considering lithium.


    Now remember, psychiatrist and therapist are on vacation still. These are covering professionals. I ask "what happened?" We were preparing for him to come back to the comm. res.?

    He's acting hyposexually - inappropriate conversation and gestures. They called the comm. residence for a historical behaviors and decided that lithium was necessary.

    difficult child 1 called Monday night and I asked him what happened. He said that the guys were hanging out in the common room (he's the youngest - the age in the dorm is 12-16 years old), and the guys were talking about what they're doing with their girlfriends/"ho's" that they pick up. As usual, he chimed in trying to fit in. He said that he stopped when the adults told him it was inappropriate.

    His normal therapist called me yesterday and I told her that something was bugging me and I couldn't put my finger on it. I asked her to tell me what had gone on over the weekend. She said that the report was very vague, but she asked around on the floor and that he apologized as soon as the adults called it to his attention. No meltdown, no cycling, no manic reaction. Nothing. She explained that when the CR (comm. res.) was called, they explained that those types of sexual conversations/gestures occured, mania and meltdowns and mayhem always ensued. So that's what they're basing their decision on.

    So...I asked for 48 hour observation. Here's my reasoning: As an aspie, difficult child 1 has always tried to "play to the room". He visually sweeps a room and tries to identify the "type of group" and assumes the personna of the group. When we had a meeting to discuss going to the psychiatric hospital. he showed up in a suit with a "briefcase" (his empty poker set) with envelopes and paper clips and asked the secretary to make copies of his report card to hand out. Other times, he's walked into rooms with teenagers and gotten a foul mouth, room full of little kids and become a role model, kids his age-bossy. You get my drift.

    I need them to watch and see. Was he showing off or was he "cycling"? She admitted that she wasn't sure because no one that had worked with him was there or was able to get a full report on the occurance. I explained that my fear is that in the past, no mood disorder medications had done any good. Nothing. Abilify, seroquel, risperdal - nothing. I told her that I'm not resisting a diagnosis or medication change, I just don't feel comfortable that this was a good idea based on the fact that nothing was documented and that it was all "covering" professionals that were going with an incomplete report based on 1 incident.

    She agreed to the 48 hour observation and was going to let the psychiatrist know. He was supposed to call me (I left a message with her AND on his voicemail) but never did.

    I'll keep you posted! And again, thanks for all of the support on this one!

    Beth ​
  2. Jena

    Jena New Member

    hey you

    I had absolutely nothing to do with your decision process, yet just wanted to jump in to say good for you!!!! Great job! circles and all that you run your still doing an awesome Mom job!!

    sooo glad you spoke up, soo glad they didnt' do it!!

  3. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Go Warrior Mom!
  4. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Way To Go Warrior Mom!
  5. HowMuchLonger

    HowMuchLonger New Member

    nvts, SO happy for you! It must feel great making a decision and then having that validated by the "professionals" who usually think they're alllways right :)
  6. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It


    You had the right stuff all along - we just helped you realize it. This is another AWESOME example of why WE are the experts on our children and the docs, etc... are the experts on a topic - but NOT on our kids!!!!!

    Proud of you for following your instincts and insisting on what was right for your kid - I know it wasn't easy!!
  7. smallworld

    smallworld Moderator

    Way To Go, Beth!
  8. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Way To Go, Beth!
    Wish I could have helped but at least I can offer congratulations on your hard work.