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Little white lies...make me petty
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 668183" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Dstc, I am sorry. </p><p></p><p>Ugh. I hate lies. I hate posturing. I hate pretending. I hate all of the energy and dancing it takes not to tell the truth.</p><p></p><p>I have finally learned that knowing the truth...and having to tell the truth, to prove I know the truth, and play the gotcha game...doesn't really accomplish anything either. </p><p></p><p>My father is a major "posturer". He likes to make everything "sound good." If you confront him on it, he gets enraged. He lives in a fantasy world, where everybody is successful and accomplished. If you aren't, he's disappointed in you and kind of writes you off. If you provide information to the contrary, he disregards it. It is very immature and sad behavior.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child used to lie if his mouth was moving. Living around people who lie all the time keeps you tense and anxious, always looking at them out of the corner of your eye...what are they going to come up with this time? </p><p></p><p>It's really hard to have a relationship with people who lie. I would say impossible, really. </p><p></p><p>In your case, who knows what they were thinking? Just tell you. Like you said, you wouldn't care one way or the other. So now, you have been asked to keep it quiet. I understand how that sticks in your craw, and I also can understand why you would do it. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes it's just not worth it to stage a big confrontation to show "you know the truth." </p><p></p><p>You know it, and that's enough. </p><p></p><p>Can you work to accept this and in time, just...let it float away? </p><p></p><p>People are impossible to understand, aren't they?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 668183, member: 17542"] Dstc, I am sorry. Ugh. I hate lies. I hate posturing. I hate pretending. I hate all of the energy and dancing it takes not to tell the truth. I have finally learned that knowing the truth...and having to tell the truth, to prove I know the truth, and play the gotcha game...doesn't really accomplish anything either. My father is a major "posturer". He likes to make everything "sound good." If you confront him on it, he gets enraged. He lives in a fantasy world, where everybody is successful and accomplished. If you aren't, he's disappointed in you and kind of writes you off. If you provide information to the contrary, he disregards it. It is very immature and sad behavior. Difficult Child used to lie if his mouth was moving. Living around people who lie all the time keeps you tense and anxious, always looking at them out of the corner of your eye...what are they going to come up with this time? It's really hard to have a relationship with people who lie. I would say impossible, really. In your case, who knows what they were thinking? Just tell you. Like you said, you wouldn't care one way or the other. So now, you have been asked to keep it quiet. I understand how that sticks in your craw, and I also can understand why you would do it. Sometimes it's just not worth it to stage a big confrontation to show "you know the truth." You know it, and that's enough. Can you work to accept this and in time, just...let it float away? People are impossible to understand, aren't they? [/QUOTE]
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