mrscatinthehat
Seussical
I can not begin to express how angry, hostile almost rabid I feel at this moment.
With everything we go through with difficult children etc we were braced for the fall out that could happen and hoping for it not to happen. I sweatted about the party for difficult child 2 and we went and it was ok.
At the last staffing we had it was decided that he would come home for a brief couple hour visit today. I had been dreading it. I know how chaotic and violent he has been and was just dreading things completely. But alas his last couple of days have gone well. So when we got down to pick him up the staff (the case manager or supervisor) that were aware we were taking him weren't there. So they had to call and make sure it was alright as no regular staff was told because we didn't want a slip to let him know he was coming home as it was a surprise. We then had to have him fill out his safetly plan. All of this went off without too much trouble.
As we got back into town we were supposed to stop at the dhs office so the case worker could see us for a few. We had called on the road to let her know we were on our way. When we got to the office we checked in. All of this was fine.
When we sat down to wait in the lobby who should walk out of the back but the difficult children bio mom. I like to have spit nails. Then she says she asked if she could hug difficult child 2 and that she had been giving permission. I didn't say a word as I was exploding inside. I could not believe that they had given her permission when all this time we have been working on getting these kids stable and now this. Well he said something in her ear (husband told me later that he heard him ask to see her) and she said they won't let me. Ok um she gave up her rights. She didn't want to be a parent to this child. She couldn't follow the rules. Umm can you say me getting angrier. So then we get back to meet with our worker and she says she has no idea that she was going to be here (uh huh it isn't that big of an office) and a couple othr things. We told her what had happened. Get this. Bio bat lied. She was told to just walk on through to the elevator and leave. WHAT?!?!?! We told our worker that is so not what she said.
So far the visit is going ok but I tell you what now we are going to have more fall out later when he is back at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I can't even begin to tell you how fired up I am about this. And that she was so blatant as to lie in the dhs office. I mean come on.
As we left difficult child 2 pulled aside the case worker and told her he wanted to see her. For pete's sake we had finally gotten him to stop asking.
You know I don't like to be broad sided. Someone should have indicated when they realized she was there that she was and had us move or something. This is ridiculous. It would be one thing to run into her in a store or something that is a public place. And at least there I would be able to tell her off (sort of) but in that office I have to absolutely behave. I can't believe she had the audacity to lie right there. The receptionist had to have heard it so as to verify it with the workers.
I keep reminded myself that this will be ok but why when we are having more violence and sexual problems with him do we have to add to the top of it her.
husband and difficult child 2 are playing video games so I better go back and make sure they are behaving. Thanks for listening if you made it this far.
Beth
With everything we go through with difficult children etc we were braced for the fall out that could happen and hoping for it not to happen. I sweatted about the party for difficult child 2 and we went and it was ok.
At the last staffing we had it was decided that he would come home for a brief couple hour visit today. I had been dreading it. I know how chaotic and violent he has been and was just dreading things completely. But alas his last couple of days have gone well. So when we got down to pick him up the staff (the case manager or supervisor) that were aware we were taking him weren't there. So they had to call and make sure it was alright as no regular staff was told because we didn't want a slip to let him know he was coming home as it was a surprise. We then had to have him fill out his safetly plan. All of this went off without too much trouble.
As we got back into town we were supposed to stop at the dhs office so the case worker could see us for a few. We had called on the road to let her know we were on our way. When we got to the office we checked in. All of this was fine.
When we sat down to wait in the lobby who should walk out of the back but the difficult children bio mom. I like to have spit nails. Then she says she asked if she could hug difficult child 2 and that she had been giving permission. I didn't say a word as I was exploding inside. I could not believe that they had given her permission when all this time we have been working on getting these kids stable and now this. Well he said something in her ear (husband told me later that he heard him ask to see her) and she said they won't let me. Ok um she gave up her rights. She didn't want to be a parent to this child. She couldn't follow the rules. Umm can you say me getting angrier. So then we get back to meet with our worker and she says she has no idea that she was going to be here (uh huh it isn't that big of an office) and a couple othr things. We told her what had happened. Get this. Bio bat lied. She was told to just walk on through to the elevator and leave. WHAT?!?!?! We told our worker that is so not what she said.
So far the visit is going ok but I tell you what now we are going to have more fall out later when he is back at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I can't even begin to tell you how fired up I am about this. And that she was so blatant as to lie in the dhs office. I mean come on.
As we left difficult child 2 pulled aside the case worker and told her he wanted to see her. For pete's sake we had finally gotten him to stop asking.
You know I don't like to be broad sided. Someone should have indicated when they realized she was there that she was and had us move or something. This is ridiculous. It would be one thing to run into her in a store or something that is a public place. And at least there I would be able to tell her off (sort of) but in that office I have to absolutely behave. I can't believe she had the audacity to lie right there. The receptionist had to have heard it so as to verify it with the workers.
I keep reminded myself that this will be ok but why when we are having more violence and sexual problems with him do we have to add to the top of it her.
husband and difficult child 2 are playing video games so I better go back and make sure they are behaving. Thanks for listening if you made it this far.
Beth