Hi, I'm new here and desperate. My 16 year old daughter has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, she has been put on Paxil and has to see a therapist every 2 weeks. For the past 3 or 4 years she's been suffering with (what I thought was teenage hormones) depression, mood swings, laziness, bad attitude, failing grades and crying jabs... Unfortunately, it's been getting worse for quite a while now, her moods have become so intense that's it's hard to sit in the same room as her. My husband will sit in the bedroom for hours to avoid her because she tries to cause arguements and drama at every opportunity. You have to be careful with EVERYTHING you say around her as she will twist it and make up her own scenario which is ALWAYS negative and about her. She wants to be with me all the time, even following me to the bathroom, then other days she hates me and calls me names... She totally misinterprets conversations and statements, she is extremely disrespectful and says things to me that a child should not say to her mother... For example, this morning she gets up late for school and wants to borrow my hair straightener, as she's asking me she tells me it is HER straightener and I need to get it her from my locked bedroom, I tell her it's not her straightener but she can borrow it if she needs it, she then goes into a rage about it being hers and how I need to calm my attitude and how I need to get laid!!!!!! I told her to watch her mouth and to stop talking like that, how it's dirty... Then she goes upstairs and tells her younger stepsister how I called her a ****?! Probably because of my dirty remark suggesting only sluts talk like that. Anyway, you see how she diverts blame onto others? I took her cell phone from her a few weeks ago and found text messages between her and her friends, basically she's liked a boy at school but he doesn't like her back, he sent her a text begging her to stop stalking him and to stop telling people they're an item... Then there's texts between her and her friend, where her friend is tired and wants to go to bed and tries to say bye to my daughter, my daughter then writes "Ok that's just great, you're giving up on me too, I'm going to go and cut myself"... Then her friend responds begging her not to, then stays texting with her (emotional blackmail). I was called into the school (before she's diagnosed and put on medications) because the teachers and councellors there feel there's something wrong with her, they say they think she has a chemical imbalance in her brain and suggest to send her to a therapist and to get her on medication right away. She is always unhappy, always depressed, she even adopts other peoples mannerisms (usually whoever she spends the most time around)... We walk on eggshells in the house, she brings everybody down to her level, and if people are happy, she tries to create drama. She refuses to shower, she smells, her hair is nasty, she walks like lurch dragging her feet, I can't take her anywhere because she turns a fun time into a nightmare, I'm embarrassed of her and now I'm starting to resent her... The medications don't seem to be working, we're paying hundreds of dollars of therapy, nothing has changed... I find myself counting down the days until she's 18 so I can ask her to leave... I shouldn't feel like this about my own child, we used to be so close, now nothing I do is ever good enough!! It seems all we do is give, give, give, and all she does is take, take, take without giving anything back in return.