Chaosuncontained
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Email from his Math Teacher (hates the subject but he loves this teacher)
We have had a big problem lately with Carson using cuss words, especially when he is angry with someone.
I'm not sure what we can do right now, but the other students are being negatively affected by it.
As of my knowledge, it began in math class. He came in very talkative. I asked him to follow the instructions on the board. He was very confused about the schedule (it changed today due to the Accelerated Reading Field Trip.) I explained it to him, but he wanted to go to lunch. He got under his desk. I gave him a couple of minutes to calm down, then I asked him to copy down his assignments and follow the instructions on the board. He definantly refused, so I gave him 10 seconds to copy down his assignments and do the warm-up activity, or Mr. S (Principal) would come help. He got out from under his desk, walked aimlessly around the room, then asked what he was suppose to do. I calmly explained the expectations, and he went to his desk to do it. Another student told me he had called me a "f....er." At this point, I asked Mr. S to come observe and assist, just in case it became worse... So far, he had not given me any reason to believe he was ready to work today.
Carson went to his desk and began writing down his assignments. After a couple of minutes he quit and put his hood over his head. Ms. W(aide) was in the room, and asked Carson to come work with her at the back table. They were suppose to practice 2 digit times 2 digit with a partner, so she worked and motivated him. (We allow him to read if he does X amount of problems.) He works best with one-on-one supervision when it is available. She told me that when Carson would mess up or get frustrated, he would say "f..k" or "****" or "dang."
Later, at lunch, a student told me that Carson had called him a "jack-a...", an "a.." and a "p..sy"
I just wanted you to be aware, and to see if you know of any strategies that are working at home. The name calling and cussing seems to be getting progressively worse.
I talked to Carson a little bit about it. I asked him if there was something else we could do instead of using those words, because other students do not need to hear/know those words. He wanted to invent an eraser that could erase things/words in your mind.... and to put "good" things in his mind. He also wanted to invent a remote where he could rewind and redo all the bad things in his life.
I encouraged and told him to let me know when he invented those things, because I would need to use them too! He also said he just needed to calm down instead of saying them.
I know he called a teacher a "8itch" and flipped one off and called another a "jerk" but OMGOSH. He's cussing like a sailor! At home he has said a few uglies. And I scrubbed his teeth with a toothbrush with baking soda (he haaaates the taste). I have no idea where all this is coming from. Or how to stop it.
Tomorrow I pick him up from school at 10:30AM and head to our first appointment with the Psychologist (they are supposed to be doing evaluations). I have a folder for this year (and one for last) of all report cards, dicipline reports, notes from teachers, samples of his work and copies of all emails from the teachers...current medications and a list of all medications he's ever been on. I also have a "diary" of his behavior at home. And this email. It's going! (Notice the "He works better with one-on-one supervision when available") I've been saying this for years.
I seriously hope these people are going to go to war and fight and find out what the h e double hockey sticks (see I didnt cuss) is going on here. Because if they don't fine SOMETHING? Then **I** will be the one needing a Psychologist.
Just be thinking of us tomorrow. I am guesstimating we won't get home until 5PM. Gonna be a looong day--and a long car ride--husband loaded classical music onto my MP3 player...umm, STAR WARS CLASSICAL MUSIC! So I get to hear Carson "dum dum dum dum da dum dum da dum" ing all the way there, there and all the way back. Fun times.
We have had a big problem lately with Carson using cuss words, especially when he is angry with someone.
I'm not sure what we can do right now, but the other students are being negatively affected by it.
As of my knowledge, it began in math class. He came in very talkative. I asked him to follow the instructions on the board. He was very confused about the schedule (it changed today due to the Accelerated Reading Field Trip.) I explained it to him, but he wanted to go to lunch. He got under his desk. I gave him a couple of minutes to calm down, then I asked him to copy down his assignments and follow the instructions on the board. He definantly refused, so I gave him 10 seconds to copy down his assignments and do the warm-up activity, or Mr. S (Principal) would come help. He got out from under his desk, walked aimlessly around the room, then asked what he was suppose to do. I calmly explained the expectations, and he went to his desk to do it. Another student told me he had called me a "f....er." At this point, I asked Mr. S to come observe and assist, just in case it became worse... So far, he had not given me any reason to believe he was ready to work today.
Carson went to his desk and began writing down his assignments. After a couple of minutes he quit and put his hood over his head. Ms. W(aide) was in the room, and asked Carson to come work with her at the back table. They were suppose to practice 2 digit times 2 digit with a partner, so she worked and motivated him. (We allow him to read if he does X amount of problems.) He works best with one-on-one supervision when it is available. She told me that when Carson would mess up or get frustrated, he would say "f..k" or "****" or "dang."
Later, at lunch, a student told me that Carson had called him a "jack-a...", an "a.." and a "p..sy"
I just wanted you to be aware, and to see if you know of any strategies that are working at home. The name calling and cussing seems to be getting progressively worse.
I talked to Carson a little bit about it. I asked him if there was something else we could do instead of using those words, because other students do not need to hear/know those words. He wanted to invent an eraser that could erase things/words in your mind.... and to put "good" things in his mind. He also wanted to invent a remote where he could rewind and redo all the bad things in his life.
I encouraged and told him to let me know when he invented those things, because I would need to use them too! He also said he just needed to calm down instead of saying them.
I know he called a teacher a "8itch" and flipped one off and called another a "jerk" but OMGOSH. He's cussing like a sailor! At home he has said a few uglies. And I scrubbed his teeth with a toothbrush with baking soda (he haaaates the taste). I have no idea where all this is coming from. Or how to stop it.
Tomorrow I pick him up from school at 10:30AM and head to our first appointment with the Psychologist (they are supposed to be doing evaluations). I have a folder for this year (and one for last) of all report cards, dicipline reports, notes from teachers, samples of his work and copies of all emails from the teachers...current medications and a list of all medications he's ever been on. I also have a "diary" of his behavior at home. And this email. It's going! (Notice the "He works better with one-on-one supervision when available") I've been saying this for years.
I seriously hope these people are going to go to war and fight and find out what the h e double hockey sticks (see I didnt cuss) is going on here. Because if they don't fine SOMETHING? Then **I** will be the one needing a Psychologist.
Just be thinking of us tomorrow. I am guesstimating we won't get home until 5PM. Gonna be a looong day--and a long car ride--husband loaded classical music onto my MP3 player...umm, STAR WARS CLASSICAL MUSIC! So I get to hear Carson "dum dum dum dum da dum dum da dum" ing all the way there, there and all the way back. Fun times.
