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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 670607" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>My life, just wanted to share a few thoughts about our adult children being homeless.</p><p></p><p>My son was homeless five different times for long periods of time before he decided to start changing his life. The first time was horrendous for me but I had to let go and let it happen.</p><p></p><p>First, there are many many services for homeless people in communities of all sizes. I live in a town of 125,000 that is 25 miles from a major city. There are meals, showers, computers to use, health care vouchers, a washer and dryer to wash clothes, clothes closets, food pantries, bus passes, job assistance, tax assistance, social workers and temporary shelter. At the shelters people are drug tested every time they go in and out, even to smoke a cigarette, and that is one reason people don't like shelters and would rather stay on the street. You can't use drugs and alcohol and stay there. </p><p></p><p>There are even more services as the weather gets colder.</p><p></p><p>If you can, get online and learn about the services in Waco because that will help you calm down. </p><p></p><p>I used to give my son computer printouts of lists of services...six or seven pages. It made me feel better to have done that. I would imagine that he was secretly laughing at me when I did that because I think he was well aware of what was available already. People on the street talk to each other and there is a community.</p><p></p><p>People can survive just fine on the street. I know that sounds strange because you and I can't imagine it but it is true. Yes it may be wet and cold at times and of course it is very hard but you know what? When people want to change all they have to do is say so and there are many people to help them, including us. </p><p></p><p>Rain and cold does not kill people at this time of year. My son was on the street during multiple winters. Again it was very hard on me, but frankly, I was more upset than he was. When that is the case, there is a big problem---they have to take ownership of their lives. We cannot do it for them.</p><p></p><p>Gently, kindly I say this...can you get some more support for yourself so you can start detaching from him and what he does or does not do? For me, this work---and it is work---daily work---took many many Alanon meetings, getting a sponsor in Alanon, working one on one with her, reading books like codependent no more, journaling and many other new daily practices that I was finally willing to put in place so I could get out of my sons way and let him face the consequences of his own choices. </p><p></p><p>I had a lot of work to do on me which was and is a full time job.</p><p></p><p>Please give this some careful thought. We so understand your fear and your pain here. We have, most of us, walked the same path and it is a long and hard one.</p><p></p><p>Please keep sharing. There is a way to peace regardless of what your precious son does or does not do. </p><p></p><p>warm hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 670607, member: 17542"] My life, just wanted to share a few thoughts about our adult children being homeless. My son was homeless five different times for long periods of time before he decided to start changing his life. The first time was horrendous for me but I had to let go and let it happen. First, there are many many services for homeless people in communities of all sizes. I live in a town of 125,000 that is 25 miles from a major city. There are meals, showers, computers to use, health care vouchers, a washer and dryer to wash clothes, clothes closets, food pantries, bus passes, job assistance, tax assistance, social workers and temporary shelter. At the shelters people are drug tested every time they go in and out, even to smoke a cigarette, and that is one reason people don't like shelters and would rather stay on the street. You can't use drugs and alcohol and stay there. There are even more services as the weather gets colder. If you can, get online and learn about the services in Waco because that will help you calm down. I used to give my son computer printouts of lists of services...six or seven pages. It made me feel better to have done that. I would imagine that he was secretly laughing at me when I did that because I think he was well aware of what was available already. People on the street talk to each other and there is a community. People can survive just fine on the street. I know that sounds strange because you and I can't imagine it but it is true. Yes it may be wet and cold at times and of course it is very hard but you know what? When people want to change all they have to do is say so and there are many people to help them, including us. Rain and cold does not kill people at this time of year. My son was on the street during multiple winters. Again it was very hard on me, but frankly, I was more upset than he was. When that is the case, there is a big problem---they have to take ownership of their lives. We cannot do it for them. Gently, kindly I say this...can you get some more support for yourself so you can start detaching from him and what he does or does not do? For me, this work---and it is work---daily work---took many many Alanon meetings, getting a sponsor in Alanon, working one on one with her, reading books like codependent no more, journaling and many other new daily practices that I was finally willing to put in place so I could get out of my sons way and let him face the consequences of his own choices. I had a lot of work to do on me which was and is a full time job. Please give this some careful thought. We so understand your fear and your pain here. We have, most of us, walked the same path and it is a long and hard one. Please keep sharing. There is a way to peace regardless of what your precious son does or does not do. warm hugs. [/QUOTE]
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