looking for mom's who understand my situation
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Hi and Welcome! I am sorry you are having such problems. Can you tell us a bit more about hte situation?
What problems are you having? What doctors and therapists are you seeing and what testing has been done? How is the situation at school?
I am sure there is lots of support and understanding for you here. Glad you found us.
What problems are you having? What doctors and therapists are you seeing and what testing has been done? How is the situation at school?
I am sure there is lots of support and understanding for you here. Glad you found us.
Shelleyd67...how do you do? I am new to this site too. My son is older, a teen, and I am really glade that you are in therapy and looking around for the ideas you need to sift through on your journey! What works is giving your loving attention and sheparding your child through as if you were the omnipitant know all that our children think we are. EVen admitting you do not know works because if you assure them you will find the answer then at least for them there is hope. And there are answers and there are so many people who have loads of exsperiances that, though not your own, will enhance your confidence by their foot prints all around whatever you are challenged by.
Read together alot...is what worked for my child and I. It was a time together, it was constructive, it fit everywhere, it soothed through more troubled times than anything else. We did it for hours everyday through the day. 45minutes here...20 minutes there... and in the evenings. You read to him...let him relax and absorb. Since you asked...that is the idea
I have for any parent.
Look forward to knowing more about your situation. I understand being a Mom and in therapy and at the wits end...that is where you will find me too. Just beyond the wits end, actually. It is kind of crowded over here.
Read together alot...is what worked for my child and I. It was a time together, it was constructive, it fit everywhere, it soothed through more troubled times than anything else. We did it for hours everyday through the day. 45minutes here...20 minutes there... and in the evenings. You read to him...let him relax and absorb. Since you asked...that is the idea
I have for any parent.
Look forward to knowing more about your situation. I understand being a Mom and in therapy and at the wits end...that is where you will find me too. Just beyond the wits end, actually. It is kind of crowded over here.
Marguerite
Active Member
To enhance what Ropefree said - working WITH your child works a lot better than constantly knocking heads together. Your child will value your efforts if he can see that you are trying to help and support him. Too often we try to be the disciplinarian at all costs and forget to look into WHY your child is behaving the way he is. Generally there is a reason and knowing this can make your job as a parent easier.
A book we recommend a lot here (there are a few) is "The explosive Child" by Ross Greene. There is some discussion on this book in Early Childhood, plus a lot of us talk about it in various threads, so read up through the files and pick and choose what feels possibly helpful.
As Ropefree said, we work as a collective; between us we have centuries (millennia?) of experience and your experiences also will be helpful to someone.
Communication is a good start. Finding what positively motivates him is also a good start. Finding what upsets him and helping him avoid it is taking you even further down the road to helping him.
Welcome. Sorry you need us, glad we're here.
Marg
A book we recommend a lot here (there are a few) is "The explosive Child" by Ross Greene. There is some discussion on this book in Early Childhood, plus a lot of us talk about it in various threads, so read up through the files and pick and choose what feels possibly helpful.
As Ropefree said, we work as a collective; between us we have centuries (millennia?) of experience and your experiences also will be helpful to someone.
Communication is a good start. Finding what positively motivates him is also a good start. Finding what upsets him and helping him avoid it is taking you even further down the road to helping him.
Welcome. Sorry you need us, glad we're here.
Marg
LittleDudesMom
Well-Known Member
Adding my welcome as well! We do need to know a little more about your situation. Click on the "User CP" link at the top left of the page and complete a member signature. That way we not only know your name, but we know more about your difficult child, diagnosis and medication history, home eniornment, etc. It's helpful when offering suggestions or advice to know the whole picture.
Look forward to hearing more and having you join us on the site.
Sharon
Look forward to hearing more and having you join us on the site.
Sharon
timer lady
Queen of Hearts
Another adding my welcome. The more information you can offer the more suggestions this wonderful group of parents may be able to offer you.
Again welcome!
Again welcome!
L
luvmyottb
Guest
Adding my welcome. We would like to know more about you and your child's situation. You have found a supportive place to vent. 
BusynMember
Well-Known Member
Hi there
Frankly, we need more info to give suggestions. Can you do a signature like I did below? Tell us about your child's early development--speech, eye contact with strangers, social ability with peers, pottying, any obsessions, did he play well with toys, etc.
Any psychiatric problems on either side of the family tree? Substance abuse? Any neuropsychologist evaluations (these are really good). "The Explosive Child" is a good book to hold you until you get the right diagnosis. and a treatment plan that is working.
Tell us more.
Frankly, we need more info to give suggestions. Can you do a signature like I did below? Tell us about your child's early development--speech, eye contact with strangers, social ability with peers, pottying, any obsessions, did he play well with toys, etc.
Any psychiatric problems on either side of the family tree? Substance abuse? Any neuropsychologist evaluations (these are really good). "The Explosive Child" is a good book to hold you until you get the right diagnosis. and a treatment plan that is working.
Tell us more.
Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Welcome to our little corner of the world! While I'm sorry you have difficulties with your child that brought you here, I hope you'll find it a cozy place to be.
I look forward to reading a little more about you and yours. I am dealing with a very challenging 6 year old (and he is round 2 - his difficult child older brother is 19) so I'm pretty close to where you are!
Welcome!
I look forward to reading a little more about you and yours. I am dealing with a very challenging 6 year old (and he is round 2 - his difficult child older brother is 19) so I'm pretty close to where you are!
Welcome!
Let us know what's happening in your corner of the world, as much background and info as you want to share, and we'll offer as much advice and shoulder to lean on as we're able.
TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
Hi Shelly, welcome.
I, too, recommend The Explosive Child.
I would also suggest that you read through some of the older notes (there are pages and pages) and get some idea of what other parents have done with-their kids. Then you can give us specifics on your 8-yr-old, such as whether you have a diagnosis, whether your child is on grade level, if your child has tantrums, wets the bed, gets in trouble at school.
Nice to meet you.
I, too, recommend The Explosive Child.
I would also suggest that you read through some of the older notes (there are pages and pages) and get some idea of what other parents have done with-their kids. Then you can give us specifics on your 8-yr-old, such as whether you have a diagnosis, whether your child is on grade level, if your child has tantrums, wets the bed, gets in trouble at school.
Nice to meet you.
