So Tay got married last year and we threw the wedding. We are 9-10 months in and just found out that they apparently had a dustup right after the official wedding (not the snuck off one that happened a few months earlier). Police were called, the hubby was arrested and his military unit put him in single soldier barracks for 3 days. She had finally had enough and decided that she no longer wanted to live with him. Of course we heard about all of this 4 or 5 days after she moved out. Living with the friend worked for a few days then now she is back with us. She is going out anytime she might have to spend time with us and let us know whats really going on. We tried to talk to her about counseling but he is an angry drunk and she is tired of dealing with it. Atleast according to her, we aren't allowed to speak to him. Of course he has been off with military training so we actually can't talk to him. I of course am the evil one because I told her neither one of them is innocent. She smacked a very drunk man and he retaliated. I personally don't think either of them was ready for marriage and then they are unable to deal with working on it. They are now 20 and 22 years and both do not appear to be ready to deal with their issues as an adult. I wan't to sit them down and talk. I also want to make sure she has a plan. Getting an education would be a plus but for now I just want her to figure out where she is heading. Plus OMG I don't want her living here long term!