This will probably be long and I apologize ahead of time if I start to ramble; you are my family and I don't have anybody else to unload this stuff on. difficult child#2's wife's birthday is today. I'm not sure if she is 19 or 20 but in either case she and difficult child are too young to have two kids. However, they do have them and I think they should be their top priority. HOWEVER: wifie wanted to go last night to celebrate with her friends where they used to live. difficult child did not want to go. His story is that she told him he could take her but she didn't want him to stay. Needless to say, he didn't go for that. So she left the house and didn't return all night. Apparently she was with another man. At least that is the story I am getting. Her brother lives with them and he is taking difficult child's side instead of that of his sister. In any case, this has been coming on for awhile. They didn't get along; they are too young for such responsibilities; I think they are both bipolar, to say nothing of the fact that they act like idiots. Example: the lady who cuts her hair is pregnant and she had to cancel daughter-in-law's appointment for a hair cut and reschedule for the next day. daughter in law threw stuff across the room and had a real tantrum. Of course, difficult child does the same sort of stuff so it's not just her. difficult child and her brother went to pick her up this afternoon but she ended up not coming with them. So we have difficult child feeling bad and saying she has ruined his life and that he might as will beat the he!! out of her and go to jail because what difference does it make. Brother is not the sharpest tack in the box and is totally befuddled. Kids (ages 3 and 18 months) have not really missed her yet but they will. I expect that what will happen is that she will try to come back and difficult child will have none of it. She will probably want the 3 year old (a girl); difficult child does not want her to have her. I'm not sure either of them really want the 18 month old. I am totally torn: My grandmotherly instincts say I should take him but I am 60 years old and have never been too fond of babies anyway and I'm not sure I have the temprament or the stamina to raise another kid who is the product of two bipolar parents. But her folks live in a camper because they don't work and have always lived that kind of existence so there is no chance that they could raise a baby. Ain't that a kick in the head. Merry Christmas.