Janna
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Spoke with my attorney at length today. He had some good, solid questions for me.
1. Why didn't difficult child 2 call me for five long weeks?
2. Why did difficult child 2 say he did not (this is a fact, my attorney heard it himself) want to come here for visits anymore?
3. Why did difficult child 2 purposely ruin his previous foster placement with the K's, knowing they were frustrated beyond belief with him and the constant school suspensions, when he could have straightened out and stayed where he was?
My attorney does not feel it is in the best interests of my family for difficult child 2 to come home right now. Considering his recent stunt with the K's, a/k/a crying abuse, and him also doing this to SO, that is our biggest concern.
He feels difficult child 2 is manipulating the system and me as well to get what is going to be most accomodating for him.
His text message to me last night: "the boyfriends bio kid is here and he's playin' around. He's really pissing me off bad, you gotta call them and tell them I wanna come home ASAP. Call them tomorrow". Since when am I his slave? He doesn't know how to use a telephone? Why am I calling? I don't think so, kid. You're 15. Act it.
The foster mother is a single parent with a boyfriend that lives with her. The bio kid is obviously the boyfriend's - that doesn't live there.
Additionally, difficult child 2 has gotten in trouble again in school. Which would explain why his text to me yesterday which said "ok, now I'm freakin' pissed, I wanna come home ASAP" was delivered to my phone.
I cannot text him back. He knows this. The number he gave me does not work. So, still, I have no way to contact him. I did message him on MySpace, he logged in, but did NOT reply to me. Go figure?
We are (supposedly) going in front of the judge to let him figure out what should be done LMAO! I'm sorry, this kills me. The judge hasn't seen any of us in over a year. He wasn't present for the last two hearings. I'm sorry, what gives him the right to make any determination at all? Because he's a judge. What a joke.
Reunification definately doesn't sound like an option.
Drug test came back negative. Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/boys school is now a possibility anyway. Would be long term. difficult child 2 isn't happy in his current placement. Boohoo whoa is me. I LIKED the K's. He was happy there. Yeah, they had their "issues", who doesn't? I have bags and bags of them. But he was succeeding there. They were strict. Demanded respect. Nothing wrong with that. He ruined it.
Partially sad, partially relieved. The more I thought about this, I really do know it's not time. I love this child. I want to live with him. But I think there's a heavy possibility we will be a family with different addresses forever.
Janna
1. Why didn't difficult child 2 call me for five long weeks?
2. Why did difficult child 2 say he did not (this is a fact, my attorney heard it himself) want to come here for visits anymore?
3. Why did difficult child 2 purposely ruin his previous foster placement with the K's, knowing they were frustrated beyond belief with him and the constant school suspensions, when he could have straightened out and stayed where he was?
My attorney does not feel it is in the best interests of my family for difficult child 2 to come home right now. Considering his recent stunt with the K's, a/k/a crying abuse, and him also doing this to SO, that is our biggest concern.
He feels difficult child 2 is manipulating the system and me as well to get what is going to be most accomodating for him.
His text message to me last night: "the boyfriends bio kid is here and he's playin' around. He's really pissing me off bad, you gotta call them and tell them I wanna come home ASAP. Call them tomorrow". Since when am I his slave? He doesn't know how to use a telephone? Why am I calling? I don't think so, kid. You're 15. Act it.
The foster mother is a single parent with a boyfriend that lives with her. The bio kid is obviously the boyfriend's - that doesn't live there.
Additionally, difficult child 2 has gotten in trouble again in school. Which would explain why his text to me yesterday which said "ok, now I'm freakin' pissed, I wanna come home ASAP" was delivered to my phone.
I cannot text him back. He knows this. The number he gave me does not work. So, still, I have no way to contact him. I did message him on MySpace, he logged in, but did NOT reply to me. Go figure?
We are (supposedly) going in front of the judge to let him figure out what should be done LMAO! I'm sorry, this kills me. The judge hasn't seen any of us in over a year. He wasn't present for the last two hearings. I'm sorry, what gives him the right to make any determination at all? Because he's a judge. What a joke.
Reunification definately doesn't sound like an option.
Drug test came back negative. Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/boys school is now a possibility anyway. Would be long term. difficult child 2 isn't happy in his current placement. Boohoo whoa is me. I LIKED the K's. He was happy there. Yeah, they had their "issues", who doesn't? I have bags and bags of them. But he was succeeding there. They were strict. Demanded respect. Nothing wrong with that. He ruined it.
Partially sad, partially relieved. The more I thought about this, I really do know it's not time. I love this child. I want to live with him. But I think there's a heavy possibility we will be a family with different addresses forever.
Janna