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<blockquote data-quote="wwise" data-source="post: 681982" data-attributes="member: 16502"><p>Good Morning,</p><p></p><p>I am newer to the site and have read so many posts that are similar to my own.</p><p></p><p>I have an 8 year old step son who is out of control. He was diagnosed ADHD a couple years back though his paediatrician has since reduced his medication only to find no change in his behaviour (at home, at school if he does not take his medication his teachers claim to see a difference.</p><p></p><p>Please do not mind my ramblings but I'm hoping someone can offer some sort of advice that we may have overlooked or bypassed previously.</p><p></p><p>We are a family of 6. My Wife, Our kids aged 10, 8, 6 and 3. Our 10 year old has ADHD and it is very discernible. My 6 and 3 year old copy a lot of what they see from their older brother and sister. I Do not believe it makes a difference but I am the Step Dad to the oldest three and the biological father to the youngest. I have been in my wife's life and our children's lives for the better part of 5 years now.</p><p></p><p>My sons father did abandon him a few years ago and I know he does blame a lot of that on me.</p><p></p><p>My issue however stems from my 8 year old son.</p><p></p><p>- He hits, kicks, bites, slaps me or throws things at me when he is angry</p><p>- He has threatened to kill me a few times (He has taken a knife and stabbed it into a box on the table and sink)</p><p>- He bites, punches or hits in some fashion his younger Brother (6) and older sister (10)</p><p>- He screams his words (usually telling me to STOP IT NOW!, I DON'T HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOU!, I CAN DO WHAT I WANT! SHUT UP! GO AWAY! LEAVE ME ALONE!</p><p>- He screams and yells for hours on end</p><p>- He repeatedly ignores my requests</p><p>- He is repetitious and repeats things over and over again</p><p>- He refuses to do chores</p><p>- Gets easily upset by minor things</p><p>- Very hyper, constantly moving, jumping, obsessed with movement</p><p>- Argues with everything</p><p>- Destructive</p><p>- Hits himself with objects around the house</p><p>- Bangs his head against walls, metal bed frames</p><p>- Has no remorse for his actions</p><p>- Has no Empathy or Sympathy</p><p>- When disciplined he does not care (Both removal of privileges and spankings)</p><p>- Makes perverse gestures with his body (Yes he's been told its inappropriate)</p><p></p><p>Around Strangers he acts (I hate the term) but normal</p><p>If he gets what he wants he will behave, very shortly after he reverts back to the above</p><p>When he is by himself with other family members he does not act this way</p><p></p><p>I have no idea what to do any more.When I do discipline him it really does nothing but add fuel to the fire, I worry about his reaction. I am at a complete loss as to what to do to help him.</p><p></p><p>Your advice is welcome.</p><p></p><p>Thank you</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wwise, post: 681982, member: 16502"] Good Morning, I am newer to the site and have read so many posts that are similar to my own. I have an 8 year old step son who is out of control. He was diagnosed ADHD a couple years back though his paediatrician has since reduced his medication only to find no change in his behaviour (at home, at school if he does not take his medication his teachers claim to see a difference. Please do not mind my ramblings but I'm hoping someone can offer some sort of advice that we may have overlooked or bypassed previously. We are a family of 6. My Wife, Our kids aged 10, 8, 6 and 3. Our 10 year old has ADHD and it is very discernible. My 6 and 3 year old copy a lot of what they see from their older brother and sister. I Do not believe it makes a difference but I am the Step Dad to the oldest three and the biological father to the youngest. I have been in my wife's life and our children's lives for the better part of 5 years now. My sons father did abandon him a few years ago and I know he does blame a lot of that on me. My issue however stems from my 8 year old son. - He hits, kicks, bites, slaps me or throws things at me when he is angry - He has threatened to kill me a few times (He has taken a knife and stabbed it into a box on the table and sink) - He bites, punches or hits in some fashion his younger Brother (6) and older sister (10) - He screams his words (usually telling me to STOP IT NOW!, I DON'T HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOU!, I CAN DO WHAT I WANT! SHUT UP! GO AWAY! LEAVE ME ALONE! - He screams and yells for hours on end - He repeatedly ignores my requests - He is repetitious and repeats things over and over again - He refuses to do chores - Gets easily upset by minor things - Very hyper, constantly moving, jumping, obsessed with movement - Argues with everything - Destructive - Hits himself with objects around the house - Bangs his head against walls, metal bed frames - Has no remorse for his actions - Has no Empathy or Sympathy - When disciplined he does not care (Both removal of privileges and spankings) - Makes perverse gestures with his body (Yes he's been told its inappropriate) Around Strangers he acts (I hate the term) but normal If he gets what he wants he will behave, very shortly after he reverts back to the above When he is by himself with other family members he does not act this way I have no idea what to do any more.When I do discipline him it really does nothing but add fuel to the fire, I worry about his reaction. I am at a complete loss as to what to do to help him. Your advice is welcome. Thank you [/QUOTE]
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