mrscatinthehat
Seussical
Or not.
We had the transitional staffing for difficult child 1 and as far as staffings go it went all right. But as I kept listening something was missing.
There was talk of school, housing, employment. The different programs to assist her with this money and that money for various things since she will age out of the system and not at home with us. (I do have some issues with this but that is a whole other tantrum of mine.) The transitional worker asked her questions about things she would need to know how to do..cook, clean, manage money (yeah right) and a variety of other things. They talked about the various things she will have an advocate for until like 21.
When I was asked if I had any questions my firs comment was after taking notes through everything that once I had a chance to go over everything I am sure I would have many.
As time progressed the two social workers got off the phone and it was the two staff workers, husband, difficult child and myself.
It occurred to me which component was missing. What of her continued mental health care etc? difficult child thought that it would be over when she aged out and would not have to see anyone.
I took a deep breath looked at this child/teen/almost adult and said that if that was the choice she made to not continue her care and take her medications and her life went into chaos she would not be able to come back to our house. I said honest mistakes are one thing but I will not live in chaos if that is the life choice she makes. I explained it in detail what I meant. husband actually added input and backed me up (bless the man). The two staff workers said that it should be a lifelong thing for her to continue therapy and medications. So they backed that up. She sat there and I know what I saw pass behind those eyes. She doesn't care. She hears all of this money she is going to get because she is aging out of the system and that she will make her own decisions.
I know at that point it is not my call but dear lord I don't want to head down the road I see happening with her thoughts.
Then to top off the day easy child calls to tell me she left her key to the house in her locker at school and that she couldn't get back in the school to get it. This with us three hours away if we were on the road back and we were not. So she told me she would just go to her friends to wait. I called the school and low and behold there was some folks still there. I called easy child back and made her walk back to the school again to get the key and told her to go home. The attitude flew accross the cell waves. To the point she said one too many things and is grounded.
Now that we are home she is all sweetness. typical teen is almost as bad as difficult child behaviour. Not quite but some days real close.
Beth
We had the transitional staffing for difficult child 1 and as far as staffings go it went all right. But as I kept listening something was missing.
There was talk of school, housing, employment. The different programs to assist her with this money and that money for various things since she will age out of the system and not at home with us. (I do have some issues with this but that is a whole other tantrum of mine.) The transitional worker asked her questions about things she would need to know how to do..cook, clean, manage money (yeah right) and a variety of other things. They talked about the various things she will have an advocate for until like 21.
When I was asked if I had any questions my firs comment was after taking notes through everything that once I had a chance to go over everything I am sure I would have many.
As time progressed the two social workers got off the phone and it was the two staff workers, husband, difficult child and myself.
It occurred to me which component was missing. What of her continued mental health care etc? difficult child thought that it would be over when she aged out and would not have to see anyone.
I took a deep breath looked at this child/teen/almost adult and said that if that was the choice she made to not continue her care and take her medications and her life went into chaos she would not be able to come back to our house. I said honest mistakes are one thing but I will not live in chaos if that is the life choice she makes. I explained it in detail what I meant. husband actually added input and backed me up (bless the man). The two staff workers said that it should be a lifelong thing for her to continue therapy and medications. So they backed that up. She sat there and I know what I saw pass behind those eyes. She doesn't care. She hears all of this money she is going to get because she is aging out of the system and that she will make her own decisions.
I know at that point it is not my call but dear lord I don't want to head down the road I see happening with her thoughts.
Then to top off the day easy child calls to tell me she left her key to the house in her locker at school and that she couldn't get back in the school to get it. This with us three hours away if we were on the road back and we were not. So she told me she would just go to her friends to wait. I called the school and low and behold there was some folks still there. I called easy child back and made her walk back to the school again to get the key and told her to go home. The attitude flew accross the cell waves. To the point she said one too many things and is grounded.
Now that we are home she is all sweetness. typical teen is almost as bad as difficult child behaviour. Not quite but some days real close.
Beth