Really, I do, but sometimes I don't think they are ever going to truly get it. they were here this morning because mother in law asked me to help her register for a library program, but you had to do the registration on line. It's not the first time she has asked me to help her with this and she usually comes down to the house alone, it it was snowing this morning and she won't drive in the snow. Not even around the corner to my house. So, father in law drove down with her. After I got the registration done for her we were talking about the kids and how I thought difficult child was going to give me a hard time about going to school this morning because one of his teachers told the class yesterday that there would be a two hour delay this morning and there wasn't. That moved to difficult child is going to start high school next fall and can you believe that and then we started talking about him going to college. I said to mother in law, "Oh, did I tell you that difficult child has now decided that he wants to go to them North Miami campus of Johnson & Wales?" We were talking about that when father in law says something about him living back home. So I said that husband and I have talked about this and difficult child is not allowed to come back here to live after he graduates from college. If he wants to come back to this area, that's fine, but he's not living back in this house. I'm done. father in law looked at me and said, "You can't do that. He's going to need to find a job and a place to live. We let all of our kids comes home." I reminded him, and not for the first time, that his kids have never said to their mother, " Do I have to beat the s**t out of you, because I can do it, you know. I'm bigger than you!" His kids never punched holes in doors and walls. His kids never pulled a knife out of the drawer and threatened one of the other kids with it. His reply was, "Well, no, but they did other things." "Other things" is just not the same. He is never going to get that this child is not the same as his kids were And yes, as his mother I have the right to say he can't live here any more.