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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 634680" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I love that song! Awesome song. And great post Cedar. </p><p></p><p>Love is a very complicated thing. And our love for our children is even more complicated. </p><p></p><p>I used to think I hated my father. This went on for years and years and years. I had contempt for him, extreme dislike for his behaviors, his anger, his rage. I was holier than thou about it all. I wanted to have nothing to do with him, and I sure would never be like him in any way, shape or form.</p><p></p><p>Be careful when you start saying never. That is always a sign that the "never" is something you are going to have to face someday.</p><p></p><p>About 8 or 9 years ago, I had to forgive my father. I came to it so slowly, and I don't even know exactly how it happened. </p><p></p><p>But I do know this: I have forgiven him. Oh, I still don't like a lot of his behaviors and I am a bit wary of him, at times. He still has a very volatile temper and he's 82 years old. </p><p></p><p>But today, I love my dad. I can see that he---this struggling, broken, very imperfect person---has done the best he could do. Until he knows different, and seeks help, he can't do different. </p><p></p><p>So I have accepted him. (it helps that he lives 11 hours away, lol).</p><p></p><p>Love is a very complicated thing, and I think it may be way more than a decision. It may be in our DNA.</p><p></p><p>Thanks Cedar.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 634680, member: 17542"] I love that song! Awesome song. And great post Cedar. Love is a very complicated thing. And our love for our children is even more complicated. I used to think I hated my father. This went on for years and years and years. I had contempt for him, extreme dislike for his behaviors, his anger, his rage. I was holier than thou about it all. I wanted to have nothing to do with him, and I sure would never be like him in any way, shape or form. Be careful when you start saying never. That is always a sign that the "never" is something you are going to have to face someday. About 8 or 9 years ago, I had to forgive my father. I came to it so slowly, and I don't even know exactly how it happened. But I do know this: I have forgiven him. Oh, I still don't like a lot of his behaviors and I am a bit wary of him, at times. He still has a very volatile temper and he's 82 years old. But today, I love my dad. I can see that he---this struggling, broken, very imperfect person---has done the best he could do. Until he knows different, and seeks help, he can't do different. So I have accepted him. (it helps that he lives 11 hours away, lol). Love is a very complicated thing, and I think it may be way more than a decision. It may be in our DNA. Thanks Cedar. [/QUOTE]
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