I have known my auto mechanic (M) since 1996, the same year H and I were married. M and I have always been friendly and H has met him several times and they are friendly also (though not as friendly as M and I as it's my car and I'm the one who he mostly sees). Anyway, long story short, M has always invited H and I to meet he and his wife out for drinks and we never go because H doesn't drink or we have stuff going on. We've invited him and his family to our home for graduation parties, etc., as well but the timing is always off so we've never socialized outside of the garage (haha). This morning I brought my car into the shop and M and I were chatting and he asked if we could maybe have lunch together and I said sure. So, we did and it was fine, we even ran into another friend of mine, so it's not like we have anything to hide or there is anything going on like that. We talked about our kids, spouses, normal stuff. So, after I dropped him off back at work, I started thinking that if the shoe were on the other foot and my H went to lunch with another woman, I would probably not like it very much and would have a hard time NOT thinking it strange or NOT completely innocent. What's up with that?? Was I wrong to accept this lunch out with my male friend? Should I have declined? I think he would have thought I was being paranoid and old fashioned if I had made excuses. I will tell my H, but I know he is going to mostly just tease me...then in something like 5 years from now, it will come out that it bothered him (just like it would bother me). But in the meantime he will just tease me. He already refers to M as my boyfriend, kidding around, but you know the old saying, "behind every joke there is some truth" so maybe he would be threatened by this? So? What do you think?