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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 634761" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Good morning, ACE.</p><p></p><p>A warm welcome.</p><p></p><p>The stealing was wrong.</p><p></p><p>It might be something your child is testing limits on? But using your credit cards is a great place to begin teaching your adult child to stand up, to grow up, to become the woman you raised her to be.</p><p></p><p>That is the message I would give her on all fronts, at this point.</p><p></p><p>For her own good, for her growth as a human being striving to create and capture the dream of the adult she imagined she would grow in to, your child needs to take responsibility for herself, now.</p><p></p><p>It is part of parenting to force our children to take those next steps into mature adulthood, ACE.</p><p></p><p>I had two children and a mother-In-law by the time I was 24!</p><p></p><p>I'm thinking you and your husband did, too.</p><p></p><p>That we faced our challenges as we did is the only reason we became who we are, ACE.</p><p></p><p>If you can frame the conversation with your child in this way, I think you will all do well.</p><p></p><p>She sounds like a good kid.</p><p></p><p>But she is developing bad habits and slipping into some limbo where she is neither child nor adult.</p><p></p><p>If she stays with you, she needs to pay rent. It can be a token amount? But that needs to happen for your child to begin thinking of herself as an adult.</p><p></p><p>I don't mean to sound like a know it all, here! If you are here with us long enough?</p><p></p><p>You will find that with my own kids?</p><p></p><p>I am pretty much clueless.</p><p></p><p>:0)</p><p></p><p>Just like they don't let doctors treat family members, it's a hard thing for parents to be objective about our adult kids, sometimes.</p><p></p><p>We see them as children in some sense, for all of their lives.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 634761, member: 17461"] Good morning, ACE. A warm welcome. The stealing was wrong. It might be something your child is testing limits on? But using your credit cards is a great place to begin teaching your adult child to stand up, to grow up, to become the woman you raised her to be. That is the message I would give her on all fronts, at this point. For her own good, for her growth as a human being striving to create and capture the dream of the adult she imagined she would grow in to, your child needs to take responsibility for herself, now. It is part of parenting to force our children to take those next steps into mature adulthood, ACE. I had two children and a mother-In-law by the time I was 24! I'm thinking you and your husband did, too. That we faced our challenges as we did is the only reason we became who we are, ACE. If you can frame the conversation with your child in this way, I think you will all do well. She sounds like a good kid. But she is developing bad habits and slipping into some limbo where she is neither child nor adult. If she stays with you, she needs to pay rent. It can be a token amount? But that needs to happen for your child to begin thinking of herself as an adult. I don't mean to sound like a know it all, here! If you are here with us long enough? You will find that with my own kids? I am pretty much clueless. :0) Just like they don't let doctors treat family members, it's a hard thing for parents to be objective about our adult kids, sometimes. We see them as children in some sense, for all of their lives. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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