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Made a big decision about my difficult child and I'm just sick
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<blockquote data-quote="ellenr1" data-source="post: 17271" data-attributes="member: 2547"><p>Amy, my son has lived with his dad since we separated two and a half years ago. Does it feel good to have him sleep under a different roof at night? Heck, no. But he can't live with me full time, too many meltdowns and he has inflicted so much pain on his younger sister. She deserves to have a life, too.</p><p></p><p>I wish we were a normal family, but it's not realistic right now. If my ex couldn't have my son with him he would be in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) right now. And he may get have to be placed in one, given his lack of cooperation with his dad, lately.</p><p></p><p>You are a good mom. You want what is best for your son. I once belonged to a support group for parents of kids who had been through wilderness programs and experiential schools (i.e. , tough love, outward bound places for troubled kids), and I'll never forget listening to one of the more experienced parents saying that when you have a troubled child, sometimes the best treatment for them is the one that is least- nurturing to the parent...you almost have to go against your maternal instinct to help them. It's really hard, so go easy on yourself. And bless your ex for being willing to backstop you.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you in getting through the transition.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ellenr1, post: 17271, member: 2547"] Amy, my son has lived with his dad since we separated two and a half years ago. Does it feel good to have him sleep under a different roof at night? Heck, no. But he can't live with me full time, too many meltdowns and he has inflicted so much pain on his younger sister. She deserves to have a life, too. I wish we were a normal family, but it's not realistic right now. If my ex couldn't have my son with him he would be in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) right now. And he may get have to be placed in one, given his lack of cooperation with his dad, lately. You are a good mom. You want what is best for your son. I once belonged to a support group for parents of kids who had been through wilderness programs and experiential schools (i.e. , tough love, outward bound places for troubled kids), and I'll never forget listening to one of the more experienced parents saying that when you have a troubled child, sometimes the best treatment for them is the one that is least- nurturing to the parent...you almost have to go against your maternal instinct to help them. It's really hard, so go easy on yourself. And bless your ex for being willing to backstop you. Good luck to you in getting through the transition. [/QUOTE]
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