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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 637604" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Thanks so much, guys. How lucky I am to have found this place.</p><p></p><p>Well, he left tonight after many clumsy attempts to let us know how hard and dangerous it was going to be with the hope that we would talk him out of going. Fat chance.</p><p></p><p>Nerfherder, he made it to the top of the driveway! Yay! Lucy, HA! That martyr role is it exactly. RE, that is a good idea. The cynic in me is betting on 2 days at the outside. MWM, it seems SO SIMPLE, doesn't it? I don't think I will ever understand how they just can't see it. COM, every cycle with difficult child means less (false) hope but more cynicism and anger. Neither of those are places I want to stay. That idea of acceptance as our only salvation really strengthens me. 2Much, I thought of crazy-making tonight, when I found myself actually heading down to the cellar to find an old bike rack I thought might help him carry his gear. Good grief, I KNOW this is just a game...yet I almost joined him in it. Headlights, 47 days is great! And I totally hear you on the space thing. And no, it is not healthy, and certainly hasn't been helpful. </p><p></p><p>I am not feeling like a warrior mom, more like a stupid mom. But I think one thing has been clarified. I thought his coming back for 2 months was for him, because he was pretty decompensated when he showed up on our doorstep. I thought helping him not worry about just surviving would allow him to get some of his ($(% together. The 2 months didn't go well, obviously. But husband and I can now honestly see and say that we really have tried our level best. It is just that the things that would in any other relationship be the RIGHT thing to do are not applicable to difficult child. We live and learn, and let go a little or a lot this time, and go from there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 637604, member: 17720"] Thanks so much, guys. How lucky I am to have found this place. Well, he left tonight after many clumsy attempts to let us know how hard and dangerous it was going to be with the hope that we would talk him out of going. Fat chance. Nerfherder, he made it to the top of the driveway! Yay! Lucy, HA! That martyr role is it exactly. RE, that is a good idea. The cynic in me is betting on 2 days at the outside. MWM, it seems SO SIMPLE, doesn't it? I don't think I will ever understand how they just can't see it. COM, every cycle with difficult child means less (false) hope but more cynicism and anger. Neither of those are places I want to stay. That idea of acceptance as our only salvation really strengthens me. 2Much, I thought of crazy-making tonight, when I found myself actually heading down to the cellar to find an old bike rack I thought might help him carry his gear. Good grief, I KNOW this is just a game...yet I almost joined him in it. Headlights, 47 days is great! And I totally hear you on the space thing. And no, it is not healthy, and certainly hasn't been helpful. I am not feeling like a warrior mom, more like a stupid mom. But I think one thing has been clarified. I thought his coming back for 2 months was for him, because he was pretty decompensated when he showed up on our doorstep. I thought helping him not worry about just surviving would allow him to get some of his ($(% together. The 2 months didn't go well, obviously. But husband and I can now honestly see and say that we really have tried our level best. It is just that the things that would in any other relationship be the RIGHT thing to do are not applicable to difficult child. We live and learn, and let go a little or a lot this time, and go from there. [/QUOTE]
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