I just received an email today from difficult child's new SpEd case manager. I am very confused and extremely scared. Sorry if this gets long but I want to provide as much info as needed to explain the whole situation. difficult child was diagnosis with Asperger's on 1/24/2011. I requested an educational evaluation by a Regional Autism Specialist. Her evaluation showed he qualified for SpEd services under Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) but also under EBD due to his EMOTIONAL reactions in school that are caused by his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) characteristics. When things happen such as things not going the way he thinks they should, sudden requests to change mind set, schedules/expectations being changed without notice or explanation, not understanding what is being asked of him, etc. he has resorted to yelling, slamming doors, tipping chairs and throwing markers. Every time he does this, the principal ends up sending him home which has created a new "routine" for difficult child. He has been given 8.5 days of out-of-school suspension, 1 day of in-school suspension and 8 unexcused absences. With the new diagnosis and evaluations, the IEP has met for a total of 4 hours over 2 weeks (2 hrs one day and 2 hrs another day the following week). At the first meeting, Autism Specialist, advocate and I brought up a need for a 1:1 para for difficult child but school refused to consider it. The only response we got at all about it was "what if the para gets a different job and moves away?" That was at the end of the first 2 hour meeting. After the 2nd meeting last Monday, the team decided to meet on the 21st to discuss how the new IEP is working. It is now the 16th and the new IEP is not done so I have not seen it much less signed it so nothing has been implemented yet. I was told today in the email that the meeting on the 21st will be a "Program Review and Manifestation Determination". I don't know what they have up their sleeves since the new IEP isn't even done yet much less implemented so no one know if ANY of it will work. I know difficult child is getting increasingly agitated with the delay as it involves some class changes he has been waiting for. When he does melt down, there is no one available to HELP him and the principal does nothing but put demands on difficult child at the height of the episode, making things worse which causes difficult child to escalate to slamming, yelling, throwing, etc which ends up with difficult child being sent home. I am scared about what they are planning. I can't be prepared if I don't know what they are trying to do. The principal has said EVERY time we meet that he isn't sure the sd can meet difficult child's needs but he puts a limit on what they are willing to even try. They have known since the last meeting that my advocate will not be available on the 21st so I am even more nervous. I am being blindsided and feel helpless to stop it. If they won't listen to the Specialist, what are the chances anything good can come of this?