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[Cora]

I keep coming back, reading y'alls posts, feeling like there is no end to the hurt of so many. My oldest has been out on parole for a few months now. He says he's working for a day hire service but who really knows. About every 2 weeks he needs gas money or some such stuff. It's always a last minute thing , just before all falls apart. I don't know when the truth and when just play on the guilt. Today he got no money and I get the guilt having possibly enabled parole violation and return to prison. I think he has been trying but I'm never sure of the truth. I hate the "what ifs".

 

[Copabanana]

Today he got no money and I get the guilt having possibly enabled parole violation and return to prison. I think he has been trying but I'm never sure of the truth. I hate the "what ifs".

You are not responsible if your son violates parole. He is.

I don't think it's wrong to believe him. Until you know he's lying.

 

[ksm]

If granddaughter needs has, I meet her at the gas station. I try not to hand out cash. She rarely asks...so I don't do it often. Ksm

 

[Cora]

You are not responsible if your son violates parole. He is.

I don't think it's wrong to believe him. Until you know he's lying.

I just get so tired of all the doubt. I still have hope that things will get better for him but it's not as high as it used to be.

 

[Cora]

If granddaughter needs has, I meet her at the gas station. I try not to hand out cash. She rarely asks...so I don't do it often. Ksm

I don't know why I didn't think of that, it's too late now though.

 

[Copabanana]

I just get so tired of all the doubt. I still have hope that things will get better for him but it's not as high as it used to be.

We learn that we have a right to hope, independent of what our children do or don't do.

You are not tethered to him, as you were before he was born. You can separate and feel what you feel, and want what you want. Let him be responsible for him. It is time.