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<blockquote data-quote="Twisted Sister60" data-source="post: 696274" data-attributes="member: 20592"><p>My 24 year old son is an honorably discharged Marine who enlisted after high school because, I believe, enlisting solved all his problems as to what to do with his life. He completed a 4 year commitment, went to Afghanistan and other horrible places and saw violence,etc. He was a difficult child, the oldest of three, with two younger sisters. He had/has difficulty making friends, he was an outcast in school, he was a smart child but weird and diagnosed with ADD in 5th grade. The teachers ganged up on me to allow him to have an IEP which he carried through high school. </p><p>He plays video games obsessively and refuses to leave the house except for the rare outing with one of his friends to play paintball. He claims he has a rich social life on line and knows "friends" from all over the world that he has played with and talked to for many years. He sits in front of his computer for hours at a time. He does nothing around the house, eats our groceries, does not take out the trash or help clean up saying.... "I don't make a mess so I am not helping clean up" although he is not paying rent or contributing to household duties in any way. He rarely showers or brushes his teeth. He has never had a girlfriend. I have my own business and I gave him a job which he has worked for several months. It started out promising and he seemed to enjoy it but he started making enemies with his political far right wing ranting about current issues. He chose to fight with the front desk receptionist and cannot move out of the conflict. I am afraid I will have to fire him from my office. He believes that talking about your feelings is weak and will not share his feelings or ask others about their feelings. This alienates him from others because he does not connect. He just signed a lease for an apartment, so he tells me he is moving out on Tuesday. He claims he has been going to school but I have yet seen him study and I think he is making it up and not going to school at all. </p><p>I have tremendous guilt as I wished I had pushed therapy when he was younger but I had a difficult husband (his father) who I was not compatible with and who, whenever I would bring up the subject of our difficult son, would point his finger at me and say "he is just like YOU", and refuse to talk about the problem. I attended most school events and teacher conferences as well as doctors appointments,etc. alone. Not that I am blaming anyone.... My son is who he is regardless of his parents at this stage. </p><p>I think he is addicted to gaming and his social isolation makes it harder for him to connect with others. I feel better after writing this and I hoped that someone else might have a similar situation with a happy ending?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Twisted Sister60, post: 696274, member: 20592"] My 24 year old son is an honorably discharged Marine who enlisted after high school because, I believe, enlisting solved all his problems as to what to do with his life. He completed a 4 year commitment, went to Afghanistan and other horrible places and saw violence,etc. He was a difficult child, the oldest of three, with two younger sisters. He had/has difficulty making friends, he was an outcast in school, he was a smart child but weird and diagnosed with ADD in 5th grade. The teachers ganged up on me to allow him to have an IEP which he carried through high school. He plays video games obsessively and refuses to leave the house except for the rare outing with one of his friends to play paintball. He claims he has a rich social life on line and knows "friends" from all over the world that he has played with and talked to for many years. He sits in front of his computer for hours at a time. He does nothing around the house, eats our groceries, does not take out the trash or help clean up saying.... "I don't make a mess so I am not helping clean up" although he is not paying rent or contributing to household duties in any way. He rarely showers or brushes his teeth. He has never had a girlfriend. I have my own business and I gave him a job which he has worked for several months. It started out promising and he seemed to enjoy it but he started making enemies with his political far right wing ranting about current issues. He chose to fight with the front desk receptionist and cannot move out of the conflict. I am afraid I will have to fire him from my office. He believes that talking about your feelings is weak and will not share his feelings or ask others about their feelings. This alienates him from others because he does not connect. He just signed a lease for an apartment, so he tells me he is moving out on Tuesday. He claims he has been going to school but I have yet seen him study and I think he is making it up and not going to school at all. I have tremendous guilt as I wished I had pushed therapy when he was younger but I had a difficult husband (his father) who I was not compatible with and who, whenever I would bring up the subject of our difficult son, would point his finger at me and say "he is just like YOU", and refuse to talk about the problem. I attended most school events and teacher conferences as well as doctors appointments,etc. alone. Not that I am blaming anyone.... My son is who he is regardless of his parents at this stage. I think he is addicted to gaming and his social isolation makes it harder for him to connect with others. I feel better after writing this and I hoped that someone else might have a similar situation with a happy ending? [/QUOTE]
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