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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 722669" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Following along ksm.</p><p>I know how it is to <u><em>hope </em></u>so so much.<strong> <u>HOPE </u></strong>(<em>Hang On Pray Earnestly</em>) </p><p></p><p>You have held on to hope over the last many months that this would be a good thing. And that it would be the thing that would get her away from your own seeming need to remain involved and responsible for her oversight (her <em>external brain</em> as you put it.) So draining for you. I do understand so well.</p><p></p><p>I feel nothing is in vain, but all experience has some profit and learning in it. There's nothing you can do about the discharge. Try not to stress over it. She will just have to deal with whatever it is. It's good she cried. Good she's been able to see that so many other kids her age are there working hard and striving hard to make it. It's not easy out there, anywhere, and most people realize they need to learn to deal with doing hard stuff and take care of their lives. I don't mean to sound harsh (as I am speaking to myself also as always!) but whatever happens, I think it's all good, "all is well" and it is alright.</p><p></p><p>We always want the best for these kids, but we cannot make it happen and cannot fix it. When will we ever learn that? You keep trying and trying again, for a long time, until you don't try anymore. With younger DCs, I see some folks here trying longer and over and over, and I understand that with younger DCs, as your granddaughter is till so young. You understandably keep hoping for a change which may come. You've mentioned that you've seen her mature the last year or two, and that will continue. (<em>I've reached the second part now of not trying anymore, as my Difficult Child is much older. It is what it is.</em> )</p><p></p><p>Take care, dear. Keep us posted. We care. We understand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 722669, member: 19617"] Following along ksm. I know how it is to [U][I]hope [/I][/U]so so much.[B] [U]HOPE [/U][/B]([I]Hang On Pray Earnestly[/I]) You have held on to hope over the last many months that this would be a good thing. And that it would be the thing that would get her away from your own seeming need to remain involved and responsible for her oversight (her [I]external brain[/I] as you put it.) So draining for you. I do understand so well. I feel nothing is in vain, but all experience has some profit and learning in it. There's nothing you can do about the discharge. Try not to stress over it. She will just have to deal with whatever it is. It's good she cried. Good she's been able to see that so many other kids her age are there working hard and striving hard to make it. It's not easy out there, anywhere, and most people realize they need to learn to deal with doing hard stuff and take care of their lives. I don't mean to sound harsh (as I am speaking to myself also as always!) but whatever happens, I think it's all good, "all is well" and it is alright. We always want the best for these kids, but we cannot make it happen and cannot fix it. When will we ever learn that? You keep trying and trying again, for a long time, until you don't try anymore. With younger DCs, I see some folks here trying longer and over and over, and I understand that with younger DCs, as your granddaughter is till so young. You understandably keep hoping for a change which may come. You've mentioned that you've seen her mature the last year or two, and that will continue. ([I]I've reached the second part now of not trying anymore, as my Difficult Child is much older. It is what it is.[/I] ) Take care, dear. Keep us posted. We care. We understand. [/QUOTE]
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