Hi,
Guess I am on the right forum, I mean, all of our problems are usually related to our difficult child's. My husband and I are having serious issues and he is supposed to go with me to my therapist on March 31. My 2 non difficult child's are concerned he is on the fine line of verbal abuse and are concerned. I did have to get an RO against my difficult child but that was serious verbal abuse and definitely no question whether it was or wasn't DV.
We have been married almost 11 years and I have asked him previously to watch how he talks tome and to even go see my therapist back then. He has called me names but I am the type who gives things a chance to get better; he doesn't necessarily "abuse" but behaviors are not always appropriate.
Anyway, my real question is I have taken a stand and told him it all has to stop and we need therapy. BUT.... he feels we should live in the house as though things are normal(doing things a married couple would do- you know what I mean) but I do not feel ok with that and told him things are so far from normal, its out of control. I don't feel good about things and am very unhappy and stressed out. All of you who have been through this, what have you done? He doesn't want to live here if we can't be normal and has said he might move out. I see no other option as we have serious problems.
HELP.................. Peg
Guess I am on the right forum, I mean, all of our problems are usually related to our difficult child's. My husband and I are having serious issues and he is supposed to go with me to my therapist on March 31. My 2 non difficult child's are concerned he is on the fine line of verbal abuse and are concerned. I did have to get an RO against my difficult child but that was serious verbal abuse and definitely no question whether it was or wasn't DV.
We have been married almost 11 years and I have asked him previously to watch how he talks tome and to even go see my therapist back then. He has called me names but I am the type who gives things a chance to get better; he doesn't necessarily "abuse" but behaviors are not always appropriate.
Anyway, my real question is I have taken a stand and told him it all has to stop and we need therapy. BUT.... he feels we should live in the house as though things are normal(doing things a married couple would do- you know what I mean) but I do not feel ok with that and told him things are so far from normal, its out of control. I don't feel good about things and am very unhappy and stressed out. All of you who have been through this, what have you done? He doesn't want to live here if we can't be normal and has said he might move out. I see no other option as we have serious problems.
HELP.................. Peg