again why are you both here?? LOL i went alone today, husband got called into work last night someone quit at his other store so he had to work today on his day off. so i went alone to therapy, than next week he'll go alone etc. anyway sat with-the guy today and first thing he said was Jen what are we doing with this? it seems there are some seriously deep rooted issues i dont' feel like we're getting anywhere.... so i laughed and said i was going to tell you the same thing. i said nothing personal yet we come and argue infront of you, than we leave there isnt' anything being resolved, discussed etc. he said i feel the same way, and i've also noticed with one of the issues you have huge problem with he wont' address it, he keeps deferring, redirecting etc. i said well you should tell him that. he said your point on this one is dead on right whether i'm supposed to say that or not as your marriage counselor. he said i think he's got junk to work thru and he isnt'.. i say yay at least someone sees it!! i said he goes to therapy gives his therapist what he wants so he gets back what he wants. you cant' control therapy it takes a life of its own on. so he said you have to decide what you want, your fencing it. i said yup i know. i said i've regained back partially and work on it everyday the life i lost somewhere along the line. i said i'm doing for me now and it feels great. he said you have to decide if it's killing you this relationship if it's worth it. he said dont' do anything to jeopardize your integrity or newly found great respect for yourself. i said i won't. im just not ready to decide, kid wont' be back into school till september, i'm not not sure yet what i want regarding this marriage. i said my feelings for him have changed i've come to find, it's different now. my view of him has changed also, it's different now. ahhh such is life....... i just thought it was priceless when i walked in and he said what are we doing ?? LOL i was like umm your the professional you tell me!!!