husband, difficult child, and I went out of town this weekend. easy child/difficult child apparently thought this would be a good time to hold a party-not good! Her door to her bedroom ended up with a hole in it. Even though she doesn't drink (I have many reasons to believe this) some of the kids did have beer and got drunk (beer cans found in the recycling bin).
At first she was very unapologetic and didn't feel she did anything wrong. I told her I wasn't perfect when I was younger and explained why we don't want her having parties at our house (#1 we don't want anyone hurt and #2 we would be held liable).
She told us not to worry she wouldn't be having any more parties and started to cry. I asked what was wrong (easy child/difficult child does not easily cry and has a very tough exterior). She was upset with herself and called herself stupid. She says she never learns. Her camera and her ipod and something else were stolen. (in Nov her computer was stolen at school) She said we should not have to pay for things that she ends up losing.
Then she showed me 5 or 6 completed job applications. She said she is trying to do the right thing and wants to get a job so she can buy her own things.
I told her while we were very upset about the party I was very proud that she had ideas on how to fix it. She even let me hug her while she was crying-it's been the longest time since she let me hug her.
She's asked me to drive her to places to drop off job applications. This is seriously the first time she has shown an interest in any type of job.
I'm crossing my fingers this is a sign of good things to come!
At first she was very unapologetic and didn't feel she did anything wrong. I told her I wasn't perfect when I was younger and explained why we don't want her having parties at our house (#1 we don't want anyone hurt and #2 we would be held liable).
She told us not to worry she wouldn't be having any more parties and started to cry. I asked what was wrong (easy child/difficult child does not easily cry and has a very tough exterior). She was upset with herself and called herself stupid. She says she never learns. Her camera and her ipod and something else were stolen. (in Nov her computer was stolen at school) She said we should not have to pay for things that she ends up losing.
Then she showed me 5 or 6 completed job applications. She said she is trying to do the right thing and wants to get a job so she can buy her own things.
I told her while we were very upset about the party I was very proud that she had ideas on how to fix it. She even let me hug her while she was crying-it's been the longest time since she let me hug her.
She's asked me to drive her to places to drop off job applications. This is seriously the first time she has shown an interest in any type of job.
I'm crossing my fingers this is a sign of good things to come!
