Hi all, Well I am feeling hopeful. Our relationship with our son is not great, he has been so angry with us and there has been a huge amount of tension etc. He is in rehab now which is good. I don't think he really wanted to go but he really had no choice as it was his way out of jail. He is in another state so it is not like we can go see him every week.... that might be good because really this has to be his journey and part of his issue is to find a way to be independent from us because he hates being dependent on us. So he has had his ups and downs but has been doing ok down there according to the therapist. He is getting intensive therapy and I know they are getting to some deeper issues, some involving the family which is good. So I felt good yesterday because he and I communicated via text message. It started over Xmas gifts... he wants a tattoo for xmas but is now talking about getting a positive message for himself such as serenity or something like that. Anyway it went on to him acknowledging the stress on the family and that a bonus to his sobriety will be less stress on the family. At least now he is talking about sobriety and is talking about something positive for himself and letting me in just a little bit. He is obviously thinking a lot about things..... so it makes me hopeful. I am too realistic to be anything more than hopeful but it is nice to have some hope for a better future.