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Me again - easy child losing it because of difficult child....
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 46868" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>From my old age I frequently try to encourage CD family members</p><p>to NOT assume their easy child's are "doing great"...particularly if they</p><p>are the "family fixers". Most of the time the response is in the</p><p>form of denial. "My easy child is the joy of our life and she (almost always, by the way, it is a female) always find something positive to focus on. Etc. Etc. Etc. She is very close to us and would not</p><p>hestitate to say that she feels the need for help."</p><p></p><p>Bull!</p><p></p><p>easy child's are either suffering quietly or loudly. There is no way that easy child's are capable of coping with all the strife better than</p><p>the adult parents. Period.</p><p></p><p>I had 2 biological PCs who helped me raise one younger difficult child. Both</p><p>of my PCs where BIG PCs. As adults they FINALLY were able to</p><p>tell me that they, too, were in pain but they did not want to add</p><p>to MY worries..etc. etc.</p><p></p><p>Make your easy child go to a therapist. Period. No more discussion.</p><p>If she is healthier than everyone else in the family, going to a therapist is not going to make her messed up. If she is human</p><p>and is suffering from the trauma..speaking freely to an adult who</p><p>will not "rat out" to the much loved parents will help her cope</p><p>now AND live more happily in the future. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 46868, member: 35"] From my old age I frequently try to encourage CD family members to NOT assume their easy child's are "doing great"...particularly if they are the "family fixers". Most of the time the response is in the form of denial. "My easy child is the joy of our life and she (almost always, by the way, it is a female) always find something positive to focus on. Etc. Etc. Etc. She is very close to us and would not hestitate to say that she feels the need for help." Bull! easy child's are either suffering quietly or loudly. There is no way that easy child's are capable of coping with all the strife better than the adult parents. Period. I had 2 biological PCs who helped me raise one younger difficult child. Both of my PCs where BIG PCs. As adults they FINALLY were able to tell me that they, too, were in pain but they did not want to add to MY worries..etc. etc. Make your easy child go to a therapist. Period. No more discussion. If she is healthier than everyone else in the family, going to a therapist is not going to make her messed up. If she is human and is suffering from the trauma..speaking freely to an adult who will not "rat out" to the much loved parents will help her cope now AND live more happily in the future. DDD [/QUOTE]
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