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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 642901"><p>Welcome back but sorry that things are still rough.</p><p></p><p>I think that finding a healthy way to detach will be far more beneficial than outsourcing your difficult child's calls to someone else.</p><p></p><p>I mean this gently and with love - spend the money on YOU. Perhaps some professional advice or "coaching" from a therapist will have a more lasting effect and cost far less money. A mediator could make your relationship much worse and it's no guarantee that difficult child won't contact you first. Plus it won't solve the real issue with your difficult child - it just inserts a middle man. It could prolong things rather than solve them. I have to imagine they bill by the hour - and do you really want to receive a bill every time your difficult child is ramping up? </p><p></p><p>I know detaching is hard and heartbreaking and we often are on pins and needles awaiting that next call or crisis - but I am so inspired by the warrior moms here whom have found ways to cope with their difficult child's antics - even see the humor in this situation. My best tool for detachment is this very board - and I hope you will lean on us so that your difficult child doesn't wear you down. </p><p></p><p>XO</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 642901"] Welcome back but sorry that things are still rough. I think that finding a healthy way to detach will be far more beneficial than outsourcing your difficult child's calls to someone else. I mean this gently and with love - spend the money on YOU. Perhaps some professional advice or "coaching" from a therapist will have a more lasting effect and cost far less money. A mediator could make your relationship much worse and it's no guarantee that difficult child won't contact you first. Plus it won't solve the real issue with your difficult child - it just inserts a middle man. It could prolong things rather than solve them. I have to imagine they bill by the hour - and do you really want to receive a bill every time your difficult child is ramping up? I know detaching is hard and heartbreaking and we often are on pins and needles awaiting that next call or crisis - but I am so inspired by the warrior moms here whom have found ways to cope with their difficult child's antics - even see the humor in this situation. My best tool for detachment is this very board - and I hope you will lean on us so that your difficult child doesn't wear you down. XO [/QUOTE]
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