welcometowitsend
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So, I called the doctors office to tell them that difficult child is refusing to take the Concerta unless I fill the prescription and just hand them over to him.
I have huge concerns about this because A) It can be sold as a street drug, B) He could use it and/or his friends could use it as a street drug C) He would likely take it in appropriately and end up keeping himself awake half the night which he already has a problem getting an appropriate amount of sleep.
I offered to drive in to the school every day to give him his medication - difficult child said no way.
The secretary at the doctors office encouraged me to look for alternatives to get him to take the medication. She really feels that this could make a huge difference in difficult child's life. I agree. I have seen the difference it has made for easy child and it's been life changing. If difficult child could get rid of his focus issues, begin thinking straight and have the ability to organize himself and remember things he might be able to start seeing what's wrong in his life and decide to change things for himself.
So, I called difficult child this afternoon to offer to other suggestions.....
A) Get the school to distribute the medications to him on a daily basis (he doesn't need it on weekends) which they agreed to. He could just whip up to the attendance counter and get his medication and go on his merry way.
or
B) He could put me in touch with the woman he lives with, I could meet her, have a discussion with her and if I felt comfortable I could give them to her to distribute to him.
In typical difficult child fashion he states that he is 'independent' and wants to be in control of his own medication. He is in control of his wellbutrin but he consistently takes it on an inconsistent basis and could certainly not be trusted to make sure he took the Concerta before 9am. His condition is that I give him the medication and leave him to be responsible to take it. He is not even willing to compromise on a trial basis just to see if it helps at all. It's like when he used to live here - he knows I want him to take it so he's trying to hold me hostage with his terms.
Even if I just handed over 5 at a time I have no way of knowing what he's doing with them or if he's taking them appropriately. And if he's not taking them appropriately and/or selling them then I'm contributing to his harm not his health. I know he drinks and smokes but to my knowledge he hasn't done drugs up until this point.
He also stated that he wants control because otherwise he'd be forced to talk to me. Oh really. Sorry, didn't realize I was forcing you to have a relationship with me. And he doesn't think there is anything wrong with his life despite the fact that he is failing miserably in school, skips all the time, is living on someone's couch, has virtually no relationship with anyone in the family. The only person he has a relationship with right now is me and that's because I make all the effort. He makes zero effort and everyone else is tired of trying to have a relationship with someone who doesn't want one with them.
Anyway, we didn't finish the conversation because he either hung up on me or his phone went dead. I tried calling back but it went straight to voicemail.
So frustrated right now. What would you do? I'm so torn because I so want to give him this chance to be/do better.
I have huge concerns about this because A) It can be sold as a street drug, B) He could use it and/or his friends could use it as a street drug C) He would likely take it in appropriately and end up keeping himself awake half the night which he already has a problem getting an appropriate amount of sleep.
I offered to drive in to the school every day to give him his medication - difficult child said no way.
The secretary at the doctors office encouraged me to look for alternatives to get him to take the medication. She really feels that this could make a huge difference in difficult child's life. I agree. I have seen the difference it has made for easy child and it's been life changing. If difficult child could get rid of his focus issues, begin thinking straight and have the ability to organize himself and remember things he might be able to start seeing what's wrong in his life and decide to change things for himself.
So, I called difficult child this afternoon to offer to other suggestions.....
A) Get the school to distribute the medications to him on a daily basis (he doesn't need it on weekends) which they agreed to. He could just whip up to the attendance counter and get his medication and go on his merry way.
or
B) He could put me in touch with the woman he lives with, I could meet her, have a discussion with her and if I felt comfortable I could give them to her to distribute to him.
In typical difficult child fashion he states that he is 'independent' and wants to be in control of his own medication. He is in control of his wellbutrin but he consistently takes it on an inconsistent basis and could certainly not be trusted to make sure he took the Concerta before 9am. His condition is that I give him the medication and leave him to be responsible to take it. He is not even willing to compromise on a trial basis just to see if it helps at all. It's like when he used to live here - he knows I want him to take it so he's trying to hold me hostage with his terms.
Even if I just handed over 5 at a time I have no way of knowing what he's doing with them or if he's taking them appropriately. And if he's not taking them appropriately and/or selling them then I'm contributing to his harm not his health. I know he drinks and smokes but to my knowledge he hasn't done drugs up until this point.
He also stated that he wants control because otherwise he'd be forced to talk to me. Oh really. Sorry, didn't realize I was forcing you to have a relationship with me. And he doesn't think there is anything wrong with his life despite the fact that he is failing miserably in school, skips all the time, is living on someone's couch, has virtually no relationship with anyone in the family. The only person he has a relationship with right now is me and that's because I make all the effort. He makes zero effort and everyone else is tired of trying to have a relationship with someone who doesn't want one with them.
Anyway, we didn't finish the conversation because he either hung up on me or his phone went dead. I tried calling back but it went straight to voicemail.
So frustrated right now. What would you do? I'm so torn because I so want to give him this chance to be/do better.