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Meet my daughter, who used to be non-difficult
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 667941" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Origami, I'm sorry you got that 3 a.m. call. I hate those calls. We get to see our Difficult Child in full living technicolor, and wow is that a shock to the system.</p><p></p><p>There is no way to know what's really going on with her, from a long-term standpoint. She's 21 and that is a tumultuous time in anybody's life. And if there is drama and upset, even more so. She may have a drinking problem and she may not. The fact that she is a senior in college is a great thing. I've learned that nothing is either this...or that. We...each person...we are all a confused, chaotic jumble of personhood. </p><p></p><p>Today, what matters to me is behavior, and I'm learning not to expect a direct line of any particular kind of behavior from anybody.</p><p></p><p>Case in point: Difficult Child was here last weekend to watch the football game on Sunday with us. Our team (Titans) did...shall I say...fantastic!!!! What a game. Anyway, I digress...</p><p></p><p>He, when he's here, regresses. This is the house he grew up in. He goes around, shuts the shutters, lays down, gets a pillow and blanket...settles in. He's like a 15 year old boy, to watch him.</p><p></p><p>Then, later in the week, he calls me and we have this amazing phone call. He is asking me lots of questions about how hard it was to start my own business back when he was born and his older brother was three and a half. You could tell he had really thought about it, wanted to know more and was taking it all in. We had an aspirational conversation about the value of being persistent, and staying the course to meet your goals, and how we all have lots of obstacles, and we have to ourselves decide if we are going to pick them off one by one or let them beat us down. It was the kind of conversation with him I had only dreamed about. </p><p></p><p>People are up and down. </p><p></p><p>I know it's not good that they got so drunk, that her boyfriend got physical and that she can't remember. But again, she's 21. And I'm not trying to minimize either...I know you are concerned and I understand that. </p><p></p><p>People are messy. Life is not a straight line. Cinderella stories aren't real. </p><p></p><p>Origami, hugs for you today. I know you have a lot on you, and I just hope you can find some time and peace and space for YOU. You deserve it. It will work out..or not..one way or the other. Warm hugs today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 667941, member: 17542"] Origami, I'm sorry you got that 3 a.m. call. I hate those calls. We get to see our Difficult Child in full living technicolor, and wow is that a shock to the system. There is no way to know what's really going on with her, from a long-term standpoint. She's 21 and that is a tumultuous time in anybody's life. And if there is drama and upset, even more so. She may have a drinking problem and she may not. The fact that she is a senior in college is a great thing. I've learned that nothing is either this...or that. We...each person...we are all a confused, chaotic jumble of personhood. Today, what matters to me is behavior, and I'm learning not to expect a direct line of any particular kind of behavior from anybody. Case in point: Difficult Child was here last weekend to watch the football game on Sunday with us. Our team (Titans) did...shall I say...fantastic!!!! What a game. Anyway, I digress... He, when he's here, regresses. This is the house he grew up in. He goes around, shuts the shutters, lays down, gets a pillow and blanket...settles in. He's like a 15 year old boy, to watch him. Then, later in the week, he calls me and we have this amazing phone call. He is asking me lots of questions about how hard it was to start my own business back when he was born and his older brother was three and a half. You could tell he had really thought about it, wanted to know more and was taking it all in. We had an aspirational conversation about the value of being persistent, and staying the course to meet your goals, and how we all have lots of obstacles, and we have to ourselves decide if we are going to pick them off one by one or let them beat us down. It was the kind of conversation with him I had only dreamed about. People are up and down. I know it's not good that they got so drunk, that her boyfriend got physical and that she can't remember. But again, she's 21. And I'm not trying to minimize either...I know you are concerned and I understand that. People are messy. Life is not a straight line. Cinderella stories aren't real. Origami, hugs for you today. I know you have a lot on you, and I just hope you can find some time and peace and space for YOU. You deserve it. It will work out..or not..one way or the other. Warm hugs today. [/QUOTE]
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