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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 728195" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Many families walk away, sometimes to save themselves. While most of us haven't done that, many detach with love.</p><p></p><p>There unfortunately are no absolutes when dealing with adults, family or not, who hurt us, lie to us, steal from us, and are dangerous. Nobody wants to distance ourselves from loved ones but many of us have had to. Nobody is allowed to abuse us, even grown children. We don't have to put up with that, DNA or not. My DNA was mostly very unkind to me and my family is my family of choice, my husband and kids only, those who love me and treat me well. Three of my kiddos are adopted and I don't think DNA is important. My opinion is that love and kindness matter, not anything else.</p><p></p><p>I also do not believe we are responsible for the bad choices of our adult children. Sure, we can think about it, but by 18 they choose their paths. We didn't cause it, we can't control.it and we can't cure it. Very sadly and unfortunately some people have a harder time doing the steps needed to find happiness. To me, it seems like certain people are almost born to fight society and sabatage their own lives and many had extremely loving, caring parents. As time goes on, it becomes largely up to them to want to change. Jmo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 728195, member: 1550"] Many families walk away, sometimes to save themselves. While most of us haven't done that, many detach with love. There unfortunately are no absolutes when dealing with adults, family or not, who hurt us, lie to us, steal from us, and are dangerous. Nobody wants to distance ourselves from loved ones but many of us have had to. Nobody is allowed to abuse us, even grown children. We don't have to put up with that, DNA or not. My DNA was mostly very unkind to me and my family is my family of choice, my husband and kids only, those who love me and treat me well. Three of my kiddos are adopted and I don't think DNA is important. My opinion is that love and kindness matter, not anything else. I also do not believe we are responsible for the bad choices of our adult children. Sure, we can think about it, but by 18 they choose their paths. We didn't cause it, we can't control.it and we can't cure it. Very sadly and unfortunately some people have a harder time doing the steps needed to find happiness. To me, it seems like certain people are almost born to fight society and sabatage their own lives and many had extremely loving, caring parents. As time goes on, it becomes largely up to them to want to change. Jmo [/QUOTE]
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