H and I are having difficult child and E over for dinner and a meeting tomorrow night. As has been discussed with difficult child prior, I am going to suggest they move the wedding from summer 2013 to Spring 2014. H and I feel that they need more time to get their act together in terms of living arrangements (they still live with his mom and dad), financial issues, and his court matters regarding the custody and support of his two boys (currently his visits are at the discretion of his crazy ex, but he pays support). They are open to an honest discussion, but I will still have to practice diplomacy so as not to invade their personal space or infantilize them. After all, he will be 32 and difficult child will be 23...realistically they can do what they want!!! However, I don't feel comfortable investing in a wedding celebration until they are a bit more settled. Commitment is not my concern as they seem to be extremely committed. Anyway, please send up some good energy for us tomorrow-thanks!!!!